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  • tmart2003
    Junior Member
    • Nov 2010
    • 1

    Need some help...

    My husband and I have been married for 8 years. For the last year, I feel like I have been fighting an uphill battle. My husband wants sex constantly. I feel like nothing I do is good enough. Now he has started telling me that he loves me more than I love him because he is willing to do anything for me but I am not. The biggest problem is that all he wants for me to do is give him a blow job. I do not enjoy getting or giving oral sex. Is there something wrong with me or am I just a bad wife???
  • LanaBear
    Veteran Member
    • Jul 2009
    • 8373

    You are most definitely not a bad wife.

    Do that two of you communicate openly about what you like and don't like. I mean, if he is ever only wanting a bj, what is he offering you. Is there romance and intimacy? Do you orgasm when you are intimate? Do you enjoy it once things are under way?

    On a medical side of things, have you had a physical, hormone levels checked, talked to your Dr about your lack of a sex drive?

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    • waya
      Veteran Member
      • Oct 2010
      • 206

      Define all the time, that'll give us a better idea of the situation. And I find him only wanting BJ's odd but maybe it's one of those things, since he doesn't get it as much he wants it even more.

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      • rcoreyus
        Veteran Member
        • Sep 2007
        • 4369

        Is he willing to do things that you enjoy in bed?

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