A note for those who say "you're a lucky guy, nothing to worry about": If it would be a man who always watched porn during sex and the woman was bothered then most here would blame the man for doing so, that he has issues, he's addicted to porn etc. I don't see why it should be any different because it's the woman who behaves like this in this case. She may very well be addicted to porn and has connected orgasms to watching it. If it bothers the OP I don't see why he has to accept it by default.
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I agress Stressed, when you are in a relationship if the behavior of one is causing the other pain or frustration, then there needs to be communication and probably some changes.Comment
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i think its as simple as FANTASY and REALITY...i myself can always orgasm in less than 3 minutes when im fantasizing, and when im having sex with my partner, it takes a long while...if it even happens...so dont take it personallyComment
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Porn's not so great when only one part enjoys it.Comment
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whit4488 has a point here, in all my experience of last 15 years I have found that both me and my wife don't need graphic views once we are able to identify our fantacy and go to sessions according to that. You have to check how much each of you are talking about your fantacies in your conversations and trying to fuel it beyond.Comment
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If it's bothering you then have a word with your wife. Things need to be talked about.
I however don't see it as an issue but then again its not my relationship.
I can masturbate with or without porn in 5 minutes, sometimes under. It's a release for me, a quick, easy, mood enhancing boost...and if it took hours I wouldn't do it at all. Sex however...I sometimes don't come at all but that isn't to say I don't enjoy it. I love sex. Sex over masturbation any day.
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I agree ...
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