[Nina12]

Hey all,

I've been dating a guy for a few months now, and we've had a good relationship so far except in bed.

Ok, his penis is too small (haven't measured the size but seems to be around/below 4) ... and its not just that, he's not strong and he cums very easily and too fast. Sex with him is not even enjoyable for me, it's quite annoying. Ive yet to have a pleasurable orgasm with him. My ex was about 7", and I really liked it.

Has anyone had a similar experience? If yes, can u tell me what did u do and how did it work? Suggestions?

I dont wanna break up just because he's not good in bed ... but its getting more annoying every day.

Thanks girls

[jns]

Hey all,

I've been dating a guy for a few months now, and we've had a good relationship so far except in bed.

Ok, his penis is too small (haven't measured the size but seems to be around/below 4) ... and its not just that, he's not strong and he cums very easily and too fast. Sex with him is not even enjoyable for me, it's quite annoying. Ive yet to have a pleasurable orgasm with him. My ex was about 7", and I really liked it.

Has anyone had a similar experience? If yes, can u tell me what did u do and how did it work? Suggestions?

I dont wanna break up just because he's not good in bed ... but its getting more annoying every day

Thanks girls

More than a penis size issue are the other issues. You miss a guy who is strong, a guy who can take his time, a guy who knows what to do and especially a guy who can get you to orgasm. I think if those other issues were resolved, that you would probably not worry about size. If you continued to worry about it in that case I would say to move on, because I don't know of anything that can enhance size that much. I suppose he could use a dildo or a strap-on.

Strength can be solved by working out or doing a physically demanding job, either for work or at home. Does he want to do that?

Taking his time can be a learned habit, by practicing holding up and by removing the stimulation until the urge to orgasm has passed. It is physical and mental.

Knowing what to do comes from experience and adventurousness. It requires good communication, if not verbally, he needs to pick up on physical clues as to what is good for you. Sometimes looking at porn videos can help with techniques and positions in this case if they are only used as a training aid. Use something where the actresses are not his type.

Getting you to orgasm requires him to learn to do foreplay and to learn to do it good. He cannot have a lot of hangups. He needs to become good with his hands and his tongue. He needs to know how to put you in the mood.

Can he grow into all of these roles? Is he willing to work at them? Are you willing to wait for him? Guys usually don't change or change only slightly. Is he going to be one of those who is willing to change a lot?

[WildChild]

I don't know about porn to learn anything except how to make men even more penis and self centered sexually, most are too far to that side already.
Do you cum from penetrative sex?
Is he willing to learn?
Are you able to teach?
It doesn't matter what his size is if he is 5 second wonder and unable to bring you orgasm by other means. The two of you need to be able to build a good degree of arousal and anticipation for you without him thrown out of the saddle before the rodeo starts.
Can the two you agree that you will spend some weeks without penetrative sex and with him focusing on mastering various ways to pleasure you? Once he knows that he can really bring you to orgasm in a variety of ways, it may be easier for him to hold back during intercourse because the focus will be elsewhere. He can learn to control himself but it has to be with a positive attitude if it turns into a high stress situation he may just shut down.
You will be doing not only yourself, but any women he may be with in the future if this doesn't last, a huge favor if you can help him learn.
Check out the Books on Sex thread, stickied to the top of the sex page, there are some good books there.

[waya]

Ok, two big questions. Have you talked to him about it? And how willing/eager is he to please you? He honestly may not know what to do for you.