[moi???]

I just recently joined after reading other questions and answers and you all seem to have some great advice. Ok, so here is my issue. I am in a new relationship and am between 30-40 and have lived a closeted life. For my age I have very little sexual experience as past relationships seemed to like to control all aspects. I am also VERY embarrassed to say "naughty" things. My BF wants me to tell him what I would like him to do to me and I can not bring myself to say what it is I want. I also want to satisfy him and he would like girl on top. I have NO CLUE what I am doing here. Any help and advise would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance !!!!!!!!!

[LanaBear]

Well.... IMO, you really can't go wrong no matter what you do. The older men get, the less picky they seem and as long as the two of you are enjoying each other there shouldn't really be any issues.

There is really no need to be embarrassed, however, I know those words probably won't comfort you. Though, you do need to be comfortable with what you want and what you crave and what brings you pleasure. You really need to be comfortable with telling him those things too, open communication is key to any fulfilling sexual relationship, any relationship in general really.

Girl on top, it's not hard, really. If you don't feel comfortable sitting straight up the first few times, bend down and put your hands on either side of his head. That way you can kiss him. Then all you have to do is slide yourself up and down on him. Whether you mean to or not, you'll be giving him a show and he'll be enjoying himself thoroughly.

Just relax and have fun.

[waya]

If it's hard for you to say the words, could you write it down?

[jns]

The older men get, the less picky they seem and as long as the two of you are enjoying each other there shouldn't really be any issues.

I think it isn't that they aren't so picky, it's just that they use different criteria. Looks, weight smooth skin are not high on the list, but a compatible personality and sexual compatibility are.

[Texasred]

Naw, it's just that we're not picky!
lol

[rcoreyus]

Do you know what you want and just can't say it, or do you not know? If what you want isn't really unusual, then do your best to tell him - he has asked and I think he really means it. It is great to have someone who really wants to do what you want in bed.

As far as girl on top - just do whatever feels good to you. The real pleasure for men in this is watching (and feeling) the woman they love really enjoy themselves.

[Lady Shae]

I find girl on top to be the better option, you get to be in control and move the pressure to where it feels right for you.

He will like it no matter what position, have some fun, experiment a bit. Leave your inhibitions at the door as it sounds like the guy your with wants you to feel pleasure (rare find). So what if a position doesn't work...you'll end up rolling around on the floor laughing together...or have an amazing night if it does work.

Maybe get a book of positions that you can look through together and play with together, have fun :-)

[Texasred]

I find girl on top to be the better option, you get to be in control and move the pressure to where it feels right for you.

.... So what if a position doesn't work...you'll end up rolling around on the floor laughing together...or have an amazing night if it does work.

Maybe get a book of positions that you can look through together and play with together, have fun :-)

Very good advice here - especially the part about the laughing!
If you can laugh about it, you're comfortable enough with each other to really enjoy it.