[kristalyn_04]

Oh. Well that explains it. Safe to say you're being taken advantage of and are setting yourself up for disaster and MAJOR heartbreak.

I agree with this, getting involved with married men NEVER goes over well, it usually ends in disaster. Unless of course he is separated or in the middle of a divorce, even then it's risky. Why would you get involved with him knowing that he's married? At the risk of suggesting that you are very naive, I would say that he is taking advantage of you.

[Guest]

Oh. Well that explains it. Safe to say you're being taken advantage of and are setting yourself up for disaster and MAJOR heartbreak.

i hope i hope i hope u r wrong..=(...
dunno y but here,at this forum,i have a feeling of attachment and belonging.and i can see that u can understand what im feeling right now..having sex was never my objective.before that i had a 3 year relationship with a guy,i stayed a virgin,and intended to do so till we were married,that guy dumped me just coz his parents dint approve of our marrige.my relationship with this present guy is,probably,my attempt at finding a remedy for a broken heart.and mybe,i tried a revenge (a lame attempt ) by gettting involved with a married person..and now m in love again,more desperately this time.not sure what to do

[Ashlee T.]

i hope i hope i hope u r wrong..=(...
dunno y but here,at this forum,i have a feeling of attachment and belonging.and i can see that u can understand what im feeling right now..having sex was never my objective.before that i had a 3 year relationship with a guy,i stayed a virgin,and intended to do so till we were married,that guy dumped me just coz his parents dint approve of our marrige.my relationship with this present guy is,probably,my attempt at finding a remedy for a broken heart.and mybe,i tried a revenge (a lame attempt ) by gettting involved with a married person..and now m in love again,more desperately this time.not sure what to do

It's so very understandable to want to be wanted. You felt heartbroken before, you had saved yourself with hopes that someday you'd marry him. 3 years is a long time. And he broke your heart. Welcome to the world of the broken hearted my friend. We've all had it done to us at some point and heartbreaks are NOT easy. I remember when I was in high school and started dating, and my mom would say to me "When you have sex with a man for the first time, you'll believe you love him, and you'll believe he loves you...whether it's true or not. Because when you lose your virginity to someone you WANT it to be special, and so you create this emotional attachment to that person because you have given then something truly special". Please PLEASE don't be get love confused with the emotional attachment you may feel to a man you've lost your virginity to. You are young and I'm quite sure are a very delightful young woman, but quite honestly, you are wasting yourself on this man and giving away parts of your body, your mind AND your heart that he is nowhere near deserving of. Anal sex with him? Good gracious no. That needs to be with a man who TRULY loves you, whom you can TRULY trust, who is commited to you, who doesn't hide you. You say you trust him fully.....but you cannot possibly trust a man who's commiting the ultimate deceit WITH you. He is not trustworthy. It is easy for a man to treat his mistress romantically, to make her feel like she's the love of his life. It's easy because he only sees her when he's at his best, only see's her now and then. It's his WIFE that is seeing his true colors, the real him. And the REAL him is cheating on the woman he made a vow to be faithful, cherish and love forever. Look around on the "Husband/Fiance" forum at all the relationships struggling because their partner got caught cheating. You are that mistress....you are that woman that is disregarding someone elses love, you are that woman causing or will eventually cause a family a TREMENDOUS amount of grief. You don't have to be that woman anymore........ it's your choice.

[rcoreyus]

I've got to agree, cheating with a married man is almost never a good idea. When someone is inexperienced I think it is almost certainly a bad idea.

I'm not moralizing here, just saying that the outcome is likely to be miserable.

[Lady Shae]

I know it is painful to even think about, but Beautiful is right.

I don't have any elegant words for you that will make you feel better, and ease the pain to come, but i do have 1 bit of advice, something i am currently doing...

Tell the married guy you are seeing to back off, take time for yourself, forget about men for a while, and find happiness within yourself. Until your happy with yourself, you will never be happy in a relationship. Love will eventually find you when you least expect it.

[Guest]

Distance and...hes married.

Oooo, honey, nuff said right there..

[WildChild]

I have to second what BD has said. Very likely you are in whati is called a rebound. When you've been briken hearted it's very easy to feel that you are in love with anyone who gives you affection and attention. But consider that he is lying to his wife and cheating on her, you are inexperienced and vulnerable. I'm concerned that you could find yourself even more broken hearted. You don't deserve that.

Absolutely, take some time for yourself. Tell this man that he can contact whenever he is legally free to be with you. Then give yourself some time. love yourself, be good to yourself. Get your head clear so that you can figure out what you really want.

[Guest]

thank u so much guys..u dun even know me and still u are here when i need a sincere advice..now im thinking i should have posted that question in relationship forum..anyways..thanks...

[ButterCupRebel]

Me n my boyfriend had anal sex for the first time. It hurt soooo bad. It felt good for him. But hurt REALLY bad for me. What did we do wrong?

[kristalyn_04]

Me n my boyfriend had anal sex for the first time. It hurt soooo bad. It felt good for him. But hurt REALLY bad for me. What did we do wrong?

If it's done correctly, it shouldn't hurt. It might be a little uncomfortable the first time, but pain is a sign that you need to stop what you're doing. Did you two spend some time building up to this with some anal play and fingering? Did you use lots and LOTS of lube? Did he go s-l-o-w-l-y or did he just jam it up there?