[kristiemichaela]

ok, so i have a great, sexy boyfriend who seems to do everything right in sex and foreplay but nonetheless i can't ever seem to orgasm!
After a while i just get frustrated and i start to feel guilty that in all his efforts nothing is happening! sometimes i feel on the verge of an orgasm but then it stops..
the only way i have ever orgasmed is through a vibrator (clit)...
i also find i am not getting wet enough before sex....could it be that my body is simply sexually immature?
please help, my situation is extremely annoying and depressing!

[lilmofie]

Not every woman can manage to orgasm every time but by the sounds of it, your distress over this matter could now be the reason for your little problem. Women, just like men need to feel relaxed and comfortable in order to orgasm fully. You obviously know that you are capable of an orgasm as you've experienced it manually.

Maybe you could try doing this infront of him (a big turn on for him) then near the point of no return.... get him to penetrate you either with his penis or tongue. How ever, if you don't feel comfortable masturbating in front of him (as many of us don't) then maybe get him to use the vibrator on you. Experimenting, having fun and relaxing are key factors to an orgasm

[LaLa08]

Just let it happen and eventually it will.
For years we as young girls are sometimes *programmed* by our mothers that sex is dirty/naughty etc and just for procreation. You're not supposed to enjoy it type of thing...this is the sort of msgs I got..and still get from my own Mother (not that I talk to her about my sex life now..in fact NEVER!..but she says things about sex sometimes and it's always a negative.

It took me YEARS to come(pardon the pun!) to the conclusion that sex IS enjoyable and that *I* deserve to enjoy it and that now I feel ripped off if I don't orgasm. I can only orgasm when I am on top(never had one any other way and self stimulation never works either,although the 'pleasure is definitely there!) and if all the moons are aligned. That is, so-called 'dirty' talk(it really helps ),my partner sucking on my nipples and then telling me how good I am! Asking me if I am enjoying taking in his hard ****,telling me how wet I am. I have to fight for every orgasm I have because if I lose concentration or the friggin bed is squeaking or the kids are still up and about, it's ruins the mood for me...not often though..but believe me..I was 30 something before I had my first orgasm..I felt ripped off for years and had no idea what all the fuss was about!...but boy it's fantastic!

[C]

Just let it happen and eventually it will.
For years we as young girls are sometimes *programmed* by our mothers that sex is dirty/naughty etc and just for procreation. You're not supposed to enjoy it type of thing...this is the sort of msgs I got..and still get from my own Mother (not that I talk to her about my sex life now..in fact NEVER!..but she says things about sex sometimes and it's always a negative.

It took me YEARS to come(pardon the pun!) to the conclusion that sex IS enjoyable and that *I* deserve to enjoy it and that now I feel ripped off if I don't orgasm. I can only orgasm when I am on top(never had one any other way and self stimulation never works either,although the 'pleasure is definitely there!) and if all the moons are aligned. That is, so-called 'dirty' talk(it really helps ),my partner sucking on my nipples and then telling me how good I am! Asking me if I am enjoying taking in his hard ****,telling me how wet I am. I have to fight for every orgasm I have because if I lose concentration or the friggin bed is squeaking or the kids are still up and about, it's ruins the mood for me...not often though..but believe me..I was 30 something before I had my first orgasm..I felt ripped off for years and had no idea what all the fuss was about!...but boy it's fantastic!

And you have only just begun......Welcome to the land of the Sexually Maturing Woman......You have only just begun......

[LaLa08]

Woo hoo,let the games begin!

[C]

Woo hoo,let the games begin!

And they have.......I had a Mother who knew nothing about sex and I wondered if I was born of the Immaculate Conception......Now add 12 years of Parochial School and I had to really break free.....But when I did and like you really let it all hang out..........it was wild........and is......and will be because I just plain adore sex....