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    Problem of premature ejaculation

    While we are entwined in an act of lovemaking we want it to continue for some longer time. My boy feels stressed out when he ejaculates very early and once the ejaculation is over his organ becomes loose and loses interest in furthering. I too might not have reached orgasm. We become harassed and withdraw with the unsatisfactory act.

    I am sure there are plenty of people here who know better and could teach this novice something useful that makes our romance gainful.

    We do it sometimes 3 times a day yet I do not get orgasm. he simply wants to have the thing erectile but once the surge sperm inundates my organ he withdraws.
  • LanaBear
    Veteran Member
    • Jul 2009
    • 8373

    He can give you an orgasm orally or manually after he is done or before. Not all women can orgasm from sex. It may be better to get you there before, then you can finish with him.

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    • Guest

      Originally posted by LanaBear
      He can give you an orgasm orally or manually after he is done or before. Not all women can orgasm from sex. It may be better to get you there before, then you can finish with him.

      How can give it manually. Give me some idea

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      • LanaBear
        Veteran Member
        • Jul 2009
        • 8373

        Fingers, g-spot, clit. You can also rub your clit during intercourse, it brings on pretty intense orgasms and may get you there sooner than you would think. He can also do this for you.

        Can the two of you slow the intercourse down or take breaks. When he feels he is about to ejaculate, slow it down or stop for a brief moment for him to regain control.

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        • Guest

          Originally posted by LanaBear
          Fingers, g-spot, clit. You can also rub your clit during intercourse, it brings on pretty intense orgasms and may get you there sooner than you would think. He can also do this for you.

          Can the two of you slow the intercourse down or take breaks. When he feels he is about to ejaculate, slow it down or stop for a brief moment for him to regain control.
          The idea of fingering the clit is really appealing to me and I like the idea and yes it stimulates when I put my finger and one of the ways we can do it on our own though the idea of the piercing it is without comparison

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          • pretzel
            Veteran Member
            • Oct 2009
            • 1557

            Hi wanton, first let me say that what is happening with your bf is NOT something to worry about. From everything you've said over the last week or so, intimacy and love making is something very new to both of you. That he is ejaculating rather quickly will more than likely resolve itself as time passes. What to do in the mean time, definately listen to what Lana (and others) have said.

            Time is very much your ally. Now is a great time for the two of you to explore each others bodies and to find those things that make love making special. The more time he takes exploring you first before actual intercourse happens, the better the two of you will mesh.

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            • Guest

              You are right and sometimes I become so horny and what it all and he wants to give me something and fails in the end and that makes him sad. The problem with us is that his penis becomes very erectile instantly and even before the pant off his swells and once he comes closer he becomes excited and after a few bumps he reaches the climax and in my case I just have the startup

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              • Texasred
                Veteran Member
                • Oct 2009
                • 1216

                Originally posted by wanton
                You are right and sometimes I become so horny and what it all and he wants to give me something and fails in the end and that makes him sad. The problem with us is that his penis becomes very erectile instantly and even before the pant off his swells and once he comes closer he becomes excited and after a few bumps he reaches the climax and in my case I just have the startup
                Won ton, you should not worry about this; it's something that will resolve itself with time. It's important that the two of you not worry too much about this. If you will treat your time together as play, and not ask a task, it may take some pressure off both of you. Recognize that you and your boyfriend are feeling the same things.

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                • realtruck
                  Junior Member
                  • Jan 2011
                  • 7

                  Wonton, there are many things you can try. I am an older man, but I remember similar issues years ago. First I would try to get him up for a second time. Bring him to orgasm with you hands or mouth. Then clean him up, and start playing again. The first time my wife did this for me was amazing! I went soft after she gave me a hand job, and she put me in her mouth that way. Getting an erection in her mouth was very exciting. When hard, she got on top of me and I had much more endurance for the "second round". My wife often touches her clitoris while we are having sex, I really enjoy that. I also will often bring her to orgasm a couple of times manually or orally. When she is ready for one more, I will get inside her. Also find your best ways to orgasm by yourself, and then show him. If he watches you bring yourself to climax, he will probably also cum with little or no stimulation, but if he is like me he will be ready for more.

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                  • Guest

                    Originally posted by realtruck
                    Wonton, there are many things you can try. I am an older man, but I remember similar issues years ago. First I would try to get him up for a second time. Bring him to orgasm with you hands or mouth. Then clean him up, and start playing again. The first time my wife did this for me was amazing! I went soft after she gave me a hand job, and she put me in her mouth that way. Getting an erection in her mouth was very exciting. When hard, she got on top of me and I had much more endurance for the "second round". My wife often touches her clitoris while we are having sex, I really enjoy that. I also will often bring her to orgasm a couple of times manually or orally. When she is ready for one more, I will get inside her. Also find your best ways to orgasm by yourself, and then show him. If he watches you bring yourself to climax, he will probably also cum with little or no stimulation, but if he is like me he will be ready for more.

                    I always respect an old man for the wealth of knowledge and experience they have earned in life and in bed of course and that will be gems to me. I am a novice and have little knowledge about it and of course the technique s you shared with me are worth million dollars. In life though people ignore it and keep to themselves I am thrilled at having all of you here to share some of your most private domains of experiences and I will try this tonight

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