[Starlees]

I am a virgin and my bf and I are trying to have sex...but we can't. Everytime he partially penetrates me, there's a blinding pain, and he says its as if he's hitting a wall...he says that he tore some of the hymen but not all of it. It's not like its not lubricated enough, and nothing we do works - he can't seem to get it all the way in either. There's always this terrible pain that is so bad that I tell him to stop. Any help would be really appreciated.

[jns]

Maybe you are really tight. How much foreplay does he do on you? Do you orgasm? Orgasming helps your body adjust as much as possible. It also allows your cervix to move out of the way so he does not hit it. He will have to only penetrate a little until your body adjusts to accommodate him.

[Starlees]

Hi there,
Thanks so much for your reply. We do a lot of foreplay, and I orgasm 1 or 2 times beforehand. Usually it is pretty wet before we try - and he either can't get it in properly or when he does, I have really bad pain.

[kayleigh4]

i had this exact same problem when i first had sex ..and i'm 14 years of age too..
do you guys use a condom? if not ; then DO THAT!
But what i found helped was i got ontop of him and slowly went down.. its painful.. but after a while it starts to feel much better.
hopefully this works ,? Goodluck .xx<3