[Barefoot]

Goddess.....can I borrow your whip? I might just go masturbate with a wine bottle...the neck part for clarification. There really isn't anything that I haven't tried...and it's because I wanted to. I have never let anyone talk me into do anything that I didn't actually want to do in the first place.

[Guest]

Goddess.....can I borrow your whip? I might just go masturbate with a wine bottle...the neck part for clarification. There really isn't anything that I haven't tried...and it's because I wanted to. I have never let anyone talk me into do anything that I didn't actually want to do in the first place.

I have not done masturbation and we never had access to any sex toys, though I craved it several time, who do not at their ripen ages. Yes when I menstruated at 14 I was physically fit with my body developed. The only complain I had was my breasts did not fatten in the proportion my body did and I always envied those big breasted girls in my college.

My boy touches me my clitoris and I just moan. I myself do not do it. I have just kissed his dicks and but never got his semen in my mouth and I just cannot stand it though I just fancy it.

I am more sexually exposed and love to talk about it yet most women do not do it or have no courage to do so for fear of criticisms

[Guest]

I don't get intimidated if a female partner takes the initiative, quite the reverse. Most partners I've had (like a lot of men) I've had to always be the one to start the ball rolling so to speak. Oh, the joy of your partner asking you to strip off so that she can enjoy your body and then touch you all over before mounting you. (sorry, got a bIt carried away there!) Seriously though, if you want sex ladies, start it sometomes PLEASE !

[jns]

Men get aroused sooner than women. When I touch the of my husband it stiffens so fast and when he just inserts and penetrates deeper and strokes for a while he ejaculates jets of sperms and he says he is in cloud nine. But take time and he has to slow down the lovemaking. In fact he has to do a lot more things than sex to get me turned on. At times when I watch porn he just fingers in the meantime.

I have talked with several other women they too have the same complains and that made me generalize it. Human nature from person to person and what I feel may not necessarily have been felt by others and there may be individual differences. Yet in general this is the case.

I have read in some articles that 35 % Americans have never get orgasms in America and in Asian countries over 70 % women do not feel and do not expect it either since they do not know what orgasms is.

In India most women are taken as commodities and this is not a dual act and men want it and women are subservient things. Women get tired always and they go to bed very late and men just enter the room and gratify his urges without talking about anything.

wanton, besides the socialization, the extra testosterone running around in a man's body makes him more aggressive by nature. This makes the man to be most likely the initiator. Just as a man can be conditioned to initiate, he can suppress this reaction and see what the woman wants to initiate. In some cases the woman is too passive, nothing happens, but in other cases it leads to more balance in the relationship.

It sounds like your SO may have to mature some to go against society norms and learn many of the ways please you. Do many people read the Kama Sutra where you are from. It gives insight in what is delightful and possible between a man and a woman.

My Wife is very passive about sex. She says she wants me to be a man and be the initiator. It makes her feel sexy to know that I want her. And when she feels sexy, we have more sex and she enjoys it more.

There are times though where she just isn't desiring it at all. And she to push herself to just do it anyways, and once she is aroused she totally enjoys it.

I can honestly say there are many things that I do well that I probably wouldn't do at all if I was allowed to pass on them. Such as work, what's up with that, just send me a check, please. And tests, I could really do without being pushed to respond. But these illustrations show that we allow our selves to be pushed into doing things that we wouldn't otherwise do or initiate, because we like the results. There is a line between being passive or non-initiating and really disliking something. In any interaction with others, a person has to be able to figure out where that line is and not go beyond it.

[anonymouswhitemale]

I don't get intimidated if a female partner takes the initiative, quite the reverse. Most partners I've had (like a lot of men) I've had to always be the one to start the ball rolling so to speak. Oh, the joy of your partner asking you to strip off so that she can enjoy your body and then touch you all over before mounting you. (sorry, got a bIt carried away there!) Seriously though, if you want sex ladies, start it sometomes PLEASE !

I agree! I only get sex because I initiate it, but the plain fact of the matter is women simply don't need or want sex as often as men do. It's very rare that you hear the reverse.
It's like the story of Little Jimmy, where he says to Little Janie, "you ain't got what I got." To this she replies "mama says when I grow up, I can have all of them I ever want!!!"

[waya]

but the plain fact of the matter is women simply don't need or want sex as often as men do. It's very rare that you hear the reverse.

If you look around on this forum very much you might think otherwise. And that's not counting the women with high sex drives that are in a sexually satisfying relationship because they have no reason to post about that.

[caterpillar79]

I was once the initiator then became passive (with the former marriage)....Now, i (was) once again the initiator, and is gradually becoming passive - it has a lot to do with my day-to-day dealings with him and how the treatment is I guess. I'm still observing myself and our dynamics, though "my symptoms" of becoming passive are showing up, and it scares me.

[Tool]

I can honestly say there are many things that I do well that I probably wouldn't do at all if I was allowed to pass on them. Such as work, what's up with that, just send me a check, please. And tests, I could really do without being pushed to respond. But these illustrations show that we allow our selves to be pushed into doing things that we wouldn't otherwise do or initiate, because we like the results. There is a line between being passive or non-initiating and really disliking something. In any interaction with others, a person has to be able to figure out where that line is and not go beyond it.

Well our counselor told us that our sex problem was due to lack of desire and was low on her priority list. And told her to just do it even if she isn't in the mood. The line for us is that if she actually is tired and not making it up, then we probably shouldn't do it. Before all of this, she was "tired" all the time. But she wasn't really tried she just didn't have the desire to have sex.

[Tool]

I agree! I only get sex because I initiate it, but the plain fact of the matter is women simply don't need or want sex as often as men do. It's very rare that you hear the reverse.

My Wife has told me the same thing, when I used to complain about not getting it. Then I caught her masterbating lol.

Women want sex just as much as we do, but many of them want their man to go after them. But if there is a problem in the relationship, some have no problem rejecting sex and then go masterbate.

[WildChild]

I agree! I only get sex because I initiate it, but the plain fact of the matter is women simply don't need or want sex as often as men do. It's very rare that you hear the reverse.

To quote a dear lady whom I love, "Pffttttt"
But then you tend to get what you expect.