[Guest]

Hello everyone, first time poster here. I guess I"ll give you some back ground before getting to the issue.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for around 6 months, we have had some issues in the past but those are behind us and I am so in love with her and she is with me. We've gotten to the point in our relationship where we are getting more adventurous with our sex lives. We wanted to hold off as long as possible before intercourse but we're approaching that point. However, in the last week or two we've done quite a bit of fooling around, just getting handsy. I'm by no means an expert, but she is having difficulty reaching an orgasm. She says that I gave her a minor one a few days ago and I'd love to believe her but I cant help but thinking she just didn't want to hurt my feelings with another failed attempt. Anyways, these failed attempts are starting to frustrate her and I hate seeing her when she gets mad/upset/frustrated.

She can reach an orgasm by herself but she says that no guy has ever been able to do it for her until I supposedly got her a minor one the other day. I just want to be able to fully satisfy her the way she is able to satisfy me but it's not working out right now. Does anyone have any tips or things I could try? I've offered to go down on her but she doesn't like that idea so much.

Any help on explaining the issue or solutions is much appreciated.
Thanks in advance.

You are too young, my bro. You must be careful since that girl you get turned on is too young and her maybe too sensitive a thing. I just am amazed at knowing that she had it experienced with other boys too before with you.

Talk more and use words of sex and read erotic boys to her so she gets excited or finger her clitoris. That is the most stimulating part of her body and it works

[Little_Man_in_the_Boat]

I believe its all about foreplay, and thats really about the relationship.

Women need to feel loved and cared for, and to really trust the guy.

If there is no trust a female just can't let go.

The female is wondering if the guy is going to hang around to look after those children.

Being a great lover is reassuring the women that you are fair dinkum about staying around to look after the

children, its an innate feeling buried deep in the womens DNA.

Proof that you are more interested in the womens sexual needs reassures the women that you do care about her and

that you will hang around to look after her and the offspring.

I guy that spends a long time on foreplay surely must genuinly care about the women because he's mainly thinking

of her needs not his own.

If your man enough to stand up and prove that you love her then go for it.

On the other hand if your not really interested in her needs and just a quick boink then forget about orgasm.

Orgasm takes a long time to achieve, eveybody wants the quick easy way of producing it but its not easy and it

takes time.

Natures little test to see if you really are fit enough and care enough about your partner.

The reward is orgasm for the women and a dare i say must be similar experience for the guy.

Let me say its an incredible experience to say the very least.

I've only ever experienced with a women the full blown womens orgasm once so far in my life.

Little orgasms but not of the same intensity as the big one.

To achieve it you have to spend a lot of time caressing the women maybe too long for most men.

So it took me I think about 5 ~ 7 hours of foreplay.

Thats no penetration until shes ready, thats right a mans testicals are agony after that amount of time.

Its really just using your hands to caress the womens body all over for hours on end but it must be done so

gentle, and so slow, and so as not to rub a womens skin.

What does caress mean ?

Caressing is not rubbing, rubbing is making contact with the skin, caressing is only just touching the skin or

hair follicles on the surface of the skin - its this that you must excite to the threshold of orgasm.

Only after the you and the women are saturated from head to foot and the women can feel the end of "plateu phase"

and the begining of orgasm should you then insert your penis.

The women should lead the guy, the guy doesn't lead the women becaused its only the women that knows when she is

ready.

Orgasm is the point where the body can no longer yield, and where orgasm is inevitable.

So this caressing is a tease till she explodes with orgasm.

What you have to know is whether the stimulous is working, now you are either increasing the erousal or decreasing

it.

Grindind should be left in a workshop it was not place in the bedroom.

So please leave the angle grinders at work and pratice caressing a womens body not grinding it.

Forget pornography pornstars i doubt never have an orgasm.

YES - YES - YES is just stupid, ignorant and silly.

So kiss your girlfriend really gently and softly and slowly ...

Kiss her around the earlobes really slowly and genlty you maybe can even lick her ears up from the bottom to the

top if she liks it.

Make sure your clean and healthy and your breath smells aromatic.

Cuddle her, hug her, kiss her ...

Caress her from head to foot, slowly, gently, and softly rythmically around and around keep your hands going up

and down, around and around ...

Initailly avoid her breasts and vulva, its only later that you should finally start to graviate to the breasts and

vulva

Keep the hands caressing her over and over and over until your arms are aching just keep doing it

so you start on her head playing with her hair running your fingers through her clean and dry hair making sure you

dont pull it out or hurt her it has to be done very gently.

Do her back, her front the sides of her torso - legs, tops, bottoms, outsides and insides circular motions around

and around up and down gliding your hands over her body quietly gently and smoothly ...

After awhile you should notice her body getting damp, thats when it gets more difficult because your hands dont

glide as easy.

But keep this going ...

Watch her top lip for what appears to be sweat that means its working as does the "chicken skin" or sex flush.

Eventually she and you will be covered with sweat but its not really sweat its water excreted by the skin to

prepare you for orgasm or the point the you hop on and insert your penis - the sweat helps you slide up and down

on her body whilst you are pentrating her

When the outside is saturate the inside is doubly so.

When you hear her heart beating really fast in her chest and shes saturated she shoould start to feel that orgasm

is about to happen its at that point you insert your penis and prepare for the most incredible feelings that you

have ever felt.

Don't be alarmed when her vaginal barrel starts to grip your penis this is what orgasm is.

Her orgasm will produce rythmic uncontrollable spasms this is normal and dont worry you are about to enter a

trance which will render you both unconcious whilst you are experiencing her orgasm.

Orgasm is a strange out of body experience that is both physical, emotional and like your souls and body are

locked together in a state of fusion.

You dont feel like you are separate you feel like you are one in the same.

Perhaps this sounds weird and unbelievable but that is how it is.

After the orgasm its like a wild storm has abatted and you feel bright and wide awake but completely relaxed and

fullfilled - euphoria, peace, love and a closeness that is wonderful and amazing.

You see steam coming off your bodies if the room is cold enough and you'll notice how wet you both are.

Your eyes are glazed and you look into your partners eyes with love and like you want to spend the rest of your

life with this person.

[ItsASecret]

To achieve it you have to spend a lot of time caressing the women maybe too long for most men.

So it took me I think about 5 ~ 7 hours of foreplay.

Far too much time and I am a woman. There is only so many movement you can produce in a set time period. Repeating those movement even if it is in a spaced out pattern will still become predictable unless the women literally has no idea you just touched her arm the same way in the past 5 minutes.

[macs]

Wow...I'm in the exact..and I mean exact position as you..I've tried everything...I've gotten her to show me/coach me..nothing works.....sometimes I can get the spot (rubbing the clit) but either I lose it or it becomes too sensitive...or if I do oral..it just becomes a tease for her and she wants sex.....worst part is. She told me how her friends are talking about how good their boyfriends are... really doesn't help my self esteem

[jns]

Wow...I'm in the exact..and I mean exact position as you..I've tried everything...I've gotten her to show me/coach me..nothing works.....sometimes I can get the spot (rubbing the clit) but either I lose it or it becomes too sensitive...or if I do oral..it just becomes a tease for her and she wants sex.....worst part is. She told me how her friends are talking about how good their boyfriends are... really doesn't help my self esteem

Are you rubbing the clitoris or on the hood over the clitoris? If the clitoris sticks out from under it's hood you can end up overstimulating it with direct rubbing or squeezing. Do you squeeze gently some of the time?

[unstuck_up_chick_2012]

my boyfriend is good in bad but he cant give me a orgasm truth is I take like 3 hours.He turns me on and everything but it takes awhile and he usally last long but not 3-4 hours.And we are going to be 20 years old soon.Maybe thats why it takes me forever.

[jns]

my boyfriend is good in bad but he cant give me a orgasm truth is I take like 3 hours.He turns me on and everything but it takes awhile and he usally last long but not 3-4 hours.And we are going to be 20 years old soon.Maybe thats why it takes me forever.

Is he stimulating your clitoris or are you only talking about vaginal sex?

[nyx]

That sounds exactly like my boyfriend and I first were. The truth is he made me feel so much better than any orgasm I gave myself, so I was a little confused that my orgasms weren't as obvious. Then when he finally gave me one I was so shocked and amazed at how amazing it was. I can't even describe it, but it took a while. And it was from oral sex. Take a hint from my boyfriend that all you need to do is get her to let you try it one time. Definitely don't push her if she really doesn't want it. But if you can just do it one time there is no turning back. I also thought it was really gross, but was adventurous enough to at least give it a try. It rocks. I love it and boyfriend loves it, win win!