[asdjr]

Sex is interest, desire and the physical ability. Recently I've begun having ED symptoms and have talked about it with my doctor. I've received a trial of Cialis and am willing to see how it works (this trial and error is certainly interesting).

My concern is the sexual interest in my SO. We have been living together for about six years. She's always (since I've known her) been conservative in sexual interest and desire. I'm wondering to what extent physical factors may impact sexual relations for women and at what age. I understand the importance of holding her, cuddling, relaxation in the whirlpool, etc. Lubricants are a friend. She's passively accepted play with a vibrator. She says I can get her off with my hand, sometimes fairly difficult. Mutual masturbation is appropriate at times. I think frequency is something important - maybe I'm more interested sooner than she. Maybe there is something physical for her that might be remedied with her health care provided. A big question is - Can there and is there interest in sex for women at 63? I know I have physical symptoms but I also know sharing her enjoyment turns me on. I'm not sure I should continue to work on my physical problems if I'm am forcing the issue. I would like to hold on to a healthy sex life as long as I can.

[WildChild]

This all depends on the woman, the man and the relationship. We have women on here in their 20s with no sex interest, I have an 80 yr old gf freind who is still very interested. People over 70 are the fastest growing group for STDs, including HIV. They aren't getting it sitting around knitting.

A healthy sex life can do a lot for your general health and feeling of physical and emotional well being. What you choose to do depends on your own needs and how determined you are to stay in this relationship. If she has always had a low interest, it isn't likely to ramp up now - but you never know.

What has your doctor said is the probable cause? You may find that altering your diet, losing some weight, and getting more exersize will help. You should also be doing kegel exersizes. I detailed how men do these in another post https://www.womens-health.com/boards...-too-soon.html

[Guest]

Kegels....a man's best friend at preventing, or at least helping to, urinary incontinence in our elder years.

I do them every time I stop the car. They take weeks of doing them before you see/feel results, but they are worth every bit of dedicated effort.

Your lady friend should be doing them too!

Sorry, didn't mean to get side tracked on Kegels, but WC had done such a nice job covering everything else....

BTW - I'm male and in my late 40s.

[Liam_680]

for me, as long as you make her feel that it is only her that you want, love and desire... get that message across clearly and Im sure you can waken up her sexual senses

[Guest]

Ooops! Failed to mention that kegels are very beneficial to one's sexual performance as well. Can help both of you in a big way.

Sorry I got side tracked with the other primary benefit earlier.