[CreoleBelle007]

Hi, i'm new to this site. I want to join and get some advice and answers.

I'm 22 years old. i've never had a boyfriend(i'm straight) and i'm a virgin. i'm saving myself for the right guy. but i really, really want to have sex. so, my hormones are racing, lol. is it best that i pleasure myself until i find that guy?

thanks

[Tool]

Nope you should be having sex and a lot of it. When you find that right guy, you want to be experienced.

Some guys like myself don't like it when a girl hasnt been with someone else. It makes me worry that maybe she will want to leave me to try other things.

[rcoreyus]

It really depends on how YOU feel and I don't think anyone can answer for you. Its pretty unlikely (but not impossible) that you will spend the rest of your life with the first man you fall in love with. Personally I don't think there is any problem with sex before marriage, and in fact think it is a good idea, but it should be with someone you really care about, not just anyone.

[Guest]

I agree...

I think you need to do what's right for YOU. If you want to save yourself until you are married, that is your decision. If you change your mind and want to experience sex before then, that is also your decision.

As everyone is different, we all should do what we believe is best for us as individuals.

There is no "right" or "wrong" answer.

[jenn89]

Nope you should be having sex and a lot of it. When you find that right guy, you want to be experienced.

Some guys like myself don't like it when a girl hasnt been with someone else. It makes me worry that maybe she will want to leave me to try other things.

Ummm, sorry, I think that this is bad advice. The right guy will care about you for yourself, not for the amount of experience you do or don't have. Likewise, it isn't fair to a guy to use him just to get experience. And there is some truth in the notion of saving yourself for the right person.

[Tool]

(EDIT) Im sorry but if I was with a 22 year old that has never had sex that would be huge red flags for me.

What I was saying, is that she go and enjoy herself and have sex..

[ItsASecret]

Im sorry but if I was with a 22 year old that has never had sex that would be huge red flags for me.

I'm curious as to why that would cause huge red flags. Is it because an individual who is 22 should already be having a lot of sex with a lot of people and have a lot of experience...essentially fit a stereotype of certain other women that age? What about those who are not interested in random no-name romps?

[Texinator]

Some guys like myself don't like it when a girl hasnt been with someone else. It makes me worry that maybe she will want to leave me to try other things.

If she wants to leave you for some silly reason, she's going to do it anyway. It has nothing to do with sex.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Ok, let's keep this nice thank you.

OP, The 'nice guy' does not care that you are a Virgin, non-experienced, in fact he more than likely will admire, respect it, in-fact I know he would.

The "bad boy" will want a woman experienced, to attend to all his needs, and to me that's selfishness..

Having someone teach you and you learning is what life is about, coupled with working out together what each other likes.

Tool, I've edited your post, your entitled to your opinion however, don't judge or force your opinons.

CW

[jns]

Hi, i'm new to this site. I want to join and get some advice and answers.

I'm 22 years old. i've never had a boyfriend(i'm straight) and i'm a virgin. i'm saving myself for the right guy. but i really, really want to have sex. so, my hormones are racing, lol. is it best that i pleasure myself until i find that guy?

thanks

With your hormones raging, sex would feel so good ... until the next day when you figure out you were no longer a virgin. If you want to save yourself for the right guy, do save yourself. Some say after having sex, "what's the big deal", but others are completely changed in their view of life and relationships.

Pleasuring yourself will help you hold your libido in check while searching for Mr. Right. While your at it, you could figure out what makes you climax, so you can teach it to Mr.Right when he comes along.

Work on getting some male friends and maybe a boyfriend who's thinking is in line with yours. Learn how to flirt. Learn how to make conversation and small talk. Have you had a lot of men who wanted to date you? Have you been dating?