[darcdante]

My fiance doesn't care if I masturbate so long as I'm thinking of her. Porn is banned, which means I always fantasize about her and I actually prefer it that way. Sometimes she'll ask if I "thought of her" the past few days, which is her cute way of initiating sex cause then she'll ask me what I thought about. Our sex life sometimes lags because we have different preferences. I wake up super horny, but she doesn't like morning sex. She wants it at night, but I tend to be tired. We each know the other masturbates to help offset our differences, but we also know we're always thinking of each other.

[Tod121]

If there is a healthy sex life within the couple and both partners are satisfied then I don't find it offensive for either to masturbate at times. Yet, if one wants more sex than the other and the other masturbates often then there's an issue here which needs to be discussed.

If I'd catch my partner masturbating while being sexually happy with him I'd join him, but if he'd be someone who claims to always be 'too tired for sex' and want sex once a week 'just to get it out of the way' I'd be very annoyed with him and sit him down for a talk after he's 'done'.

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Unless someone masturbates in front of their partner say as part of foreplay surely it shows a lack of fulfilment. I was speaking to someone the other day and saying how funny it is that women fairly openly discuss dildo's and vibrator's passing around Anne Summers catalogues, etc as they laugh and gasp at the toys available but if the topic of blokes having a wank "comes" up, it is something disgusting. 1 rule for 1..?
My wife said (may be in the heat of the moment) she wants me to walk in on her whilst "playing" with herself and stand there and watch her but Im sure if she caught me at it, it would be very awkward in deed.

[Amber528]

i would help you out. but i find masturbating to be a beautiful thing.

[kristalyn_04]

Nope, no problem here. I'm single right now but if I'm in a relationship, as long as I'm satisfied with our sex life, he can masturbate as much as he wants. Walking in on him? I'd offer to help.

[stressed]

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Unless someone masturbates in front of their partner say as part of foreplay surely it shows a lack of fulfilment. I was speaking to someone the other day and saying how funny it is that women fairly openly discuss dildo's and vibrator's passing around Anne Summers catalogues, etc as they laugh and gasp at the toys available but if the topic of blokes having a wank "comes" up, it is something disgusting. 1 rule for 1..?
My wife said (may be in the heat of the moment) she wants me to walk in on her whilst "playing" with herself and stand there and watch her but Im sure if she caught me at it, it would be very awkward in deed.

It's not always like that. I don't have any friends (women/men) who'd do such a thing with a vibrator in public, or joke about vibrators or even dare mention having one. I personally don't consider it funny either. It's all about the person you talk to and how open each one is to sexual/private discussions. If a man I barely know starts a discussion about masturbation or mention masturbation or joke about it, it will probably cross my mind that "he masturbates too often because he can't get a woman". People perceive/react differently.

Now, as for your wife, have you asked her how she'd feel if she caught you at it, or is this an assumption you make based on her behavior? By your post it seems as if you're not willing to do what she has told you she'd like you to do (i.e. walk in) because you don't believe it's fair that it's okay for her but not for you.

Nothing wrong with masturbating in front of your partner as foreplay either and it doesn't have to be a matter of "being caught", it can be easily done in bed.

It's all about communication and understanding. When we communicate (either verbally or through other direct means) then we become understood. When we don't communicate we cannot expect our partner to read our mind. When we communicate but our partner ignores our wishes, now, that's one big problem.

[Magnetism]

I wouldn't care. Let's say for some reason we can't get intimate (if one of is sick or too tired or something), I would prefer the person to masturbate so I know their getting their needs met in some way. I masturbate when in a relationship if I'm in the mood and the partner just isn't there.

[Tod121]

It's not always like that. I don't have any friends (women/men) who'd do such a thing with a vibrator in public, or joke about vibrators or even dare mention having one. I personally don't consider it funny either. It's all about the person you talk to and how open each one is to sexual/private discussions. If a man I barely know starts a discussion about masturbation or mention masturbation or joke about it, it will probably cross my mind that "he masturbates too often because he can't get a woman". People perceive/react differently.

Now, as for your wife, have you asked her how she'd feel if she caught you at it, or is this an assumption you make based on her behavior? By your post it seems as if you're not willing to do what she has told you she'd like you to do (i.e. walk in) because you don't believe it's fair that it's okay for her but not for you.

Nothing wrong with masturbating in front of your partner as foreplay either and it doesn't have to be a matter of "being caught", it can be easily done in bed.

It's all about communication and understanding. When we communicate (either verbally or through other direct means) then we become understood. When we don't communicate we cannot expect our partner to read our mind. When we communicate but our partner ignores our wishes, now, that's one big problem.

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I agree, nothing wrong with masturbating in front of your partner as part of foreplay. The "being caught" bit is to do with the general stigma and what the other person may think if you were caught.
The fact I havent actually gone home early a found my wife masturbating is far more to do with being caught up and busy at work and unable to leave than not wishing to play along. The openess about vibrators, includes things like the ladys at work passing around Anne Summers catologues or having Anne Summers partys, where they pass around the latest toys, even the Anne Summers high street shops advertise their Rabbit vibrators. There seems to be lots of general advertising with attractive girls showing what they can do.