[AntiPrincess]

Please find a counselor or somebody you can talk to about this all in real life. I'm not saying the way you're feeling about sex is wrong, but the reactions you mentioned about break-ups (Suicidal thoughts, depression, bulimia) are on the extreme side, and are not only emotionally harmful to you, but physically as well. It still sounds like to me that there is some other major source
of stress in your life that would contribute to these reactions.

[Comstudent25]

What you have is natural

Some people just have that fear of having sex that doesn't make you weird. I myself can't stand the idea of someone entering me it's just seems unnatural or gross.
I would talk with a counselor about this though so you can work through it.

[AngelicBunny]

I think you've been put off love because of the boyfriend you had oral with. He cheated on you, and that hurt you. You say you loved him, but no longer believe in love. He must've put you off. I think if my boyfriend were to do the same, I could no longer live with knowing the one person I had ever loved had done that. I think the only way you would feel comfortable with being naked with another man and having sex with him would be if you loved him, as you seemed fine with it when you were with the guy you had oral with.

I know I didn't think I'd feel comfortable about sex until I got close with my boyfriend, I have never been so comfortable to be naked. I am so sorry that this guy has done this to you, and I want you to know there is nothing wrong with you, I think you were just affected badly, which happens to lots of women and men when cheated on.

I am sorry if I am wrong, I'm not usually good at these kinda things

[nutmeg]

i always hated the idea of sex growing up and never looked at myself down there, let alone masturbated. granted i think i had some psychological issues and a lot of body image problems, i refused to allow myself to be pressured in to sex just to be "normal". up until this year i thought i must be asexual until i met my current boyfriend. it took me 27 years to fall in love for the first time. sex with him seems like a natural expression of love for each other, although the thought of being touched by anyone else still grosses me out completely.

my opinion, don't rush it. i think its okay to feel protective of your body and scared of sex. when someone loves you, they will be patient and make you feel safe. it will feel right when the time is right...

[Guest]

Thank you nutmeg and AngelicBunny, but I seriously feel like I'll never be comfy with someone.

This guy that I like is now to busy for me. I miss him so much.

[h0tp1nk62]

There is absolutely nothing to be scared about.
Sex is a natural thing, and you're not alone, because there's alot more people who feel the same way you do.

There no need to be in a rush.
Have sex when youre READY. and choose wisely.
Once you lost it, you can never take it back.

And be aware of HIV,STD's, etc.!

I hope this helped a little bit.

[AngelicBunny]

Thank you nutmeg and AngelicBunny, but I seriously feel like I'll never be comfy with someone.

This guy that I like is now to busy for me. I miss him so much.

You are very welcome.

I wish you could be comfy with someone.

I know I used to always think sex would be awkward for me. I always felt uncomfortable with my body (I remember when he first saw & touch my breasts... I was so embaressed... I distracted him with a kiss... though he said there was nothing wrong with them...)

I think this is something you should get over with time. Don't feel as though you'd never be comfy. This is hard for me to try and help or comfort (I'm usually good at empathy (basically trying to understand what you're feeling & trying to help) but I haven't experienced something similar and I'm still quite young)

You're 16 right? You're still young! There is nothing wrong with you, and I think you should just have fun with your life, and with some friends or family. Sex isn't everything, I personally see it as something you do with someone you love.
I believe if you were in love with someone, you might feel comfy. I remember after sex, the feeling I had for him deffinatly grew, and I felt so happy with him. (I don't understand sex for the sake of it... I dunno... maybe I'm sensitive)

You seem very mature for your age. Don't let your mind change to 'I must have sex' or 'I must find love' (you seem too smart to think this anyway!) and just enjoy life. You don't need sex to have a brilliant time, life or relationships( I can have an amazing time just talking to my boyfriend! So hopefully if you got time with the guy you like, you two could just go out, or just have huge conversations... I hope you see him soon)

I wish I could help you, and give you real advice. I'd love to be able to help you and make you feel better - and there is NOTHING wrong with you everyone is different in very different ways.

[Irelandlover]

I thought it was just a natural fear I have, but recently someone told me that it's not healthy that I'm scared to have sex. It's not as if I'm being forced to have or anything. Just the thought of it makes me squirm and sometimes cry. I fear my first gyno appointment (you can kinda guess my age right there) because... it's freaky. Something foreign searching inside of me. I swear, I'm making typos because just thinking about it... Blah!

When my guy friends tell me they've had sex recently I can't talk to them, I can't associate with them. I want nothing to do with them. It's horrible. A friend of mine told me a few days ago that it's natural for someone to feel the need to get laid everyone once in a while by a a person they know or don't know and I yelled at him and called him a horrible person and we haven't talked since. I seriously think they're something wrong with me.

Can anyone help me? And yes, I am a virgin.

How can you be scared of sexy on the 13th of the month and fine a few weeks after....

[Guest]

How can you be scared of sexy on the 13th of the month and fine a few weeks after....

...13th of June...-nods- It's not the same month anymore, sweetie.

It's a problem I had been trying to get rid of for a while and someone finally slapped some sense into me. Sobbing and getting bugged out about it wasn't gonna get me anywhere...Then, something weird happened and well... I was okay with it. Didn't wanna have it, but I'm not scared of it.

Do you have a problem or something? Doesn't seem like you came to this thread to help me.