[bec]

its a big step

[Texasred]

Thanx 4 all ur concerns i'll try convincing him as u guys said...

I don't *think* that "convincing" your husband is exactly what everyone has been saying.

[rcoreyus]

I said "talk", not "convince". You need to accept that you may not be able to have children with this man.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

both our parents didn't accept.

Yas, what you are trying to do is get "acceptance" as a wife, as a daughter in law, a daughter and you know that a "child" accepts and loves his/her Mother...I understand that you value and love children...

even i'm feeling lonely as he leaves in de morning n comes late at night.

Then there is lonliness, whilst he works all day until late at night....yet you can change that in so many other ways...

Acceptance
Lonliness
Love

Your family may have felt you were too young, your husband is working very long hours, to support this marriage, and he has said "wait" a couple of years, why?

Money
Stability
Growing together in Marriage first


Your family didn't accept the marriage, have they disowned you? Or can you communicate with them, if they are no longer close to you, be strong, tough, honor your husband, and honor yourself, you chose your husband, him you, for one would hope love...

Families don't come around based on a child, they come around seeing that they were wrong, you two can actually stand on your own two feet, last, and are happy... That is what they need to see, a baby now would make it worse in their eyes, as it's more financials. And, the stress you will put on your husband? Doesn't that matter to you? More money he has to find?

You are childless, lonley and want acceptance...

Do a course, look for a job even if it's part time, bring your own money into your marriage, do something with your time so you are not lonely, build your future together and make friends.

2 Years of learning to partcipate in your marriage, have new friends, extra money, savings, seeing a future, not relying on one person, your child / children will have a lot more in their lives that otherwise, you will not be able to provide.

CW

[nyx]

The most important thing is that you and your husband are happy! Yes, it is nice to have the in-laws like and approve of you, but what is more important? I realize that you probably do value children. I felt like you were thinking that since you like and want kids, and you are ready, why not kill two birds with one stone? That isn't exactly wrong, but mending your family doesn't need to be at the forefront of your mind. At least that's how I feel.

It also takes a lot of work to have your in-laws accept you. They won't love and accept you just because you're there to be loved and accepted. You need to open up to them. Both my boyfriend and I had to show each others parents that we were making the right decision by being together. That all starts with talking. You won't believe how far that goes. Your parents and his are people who will formulate opinions based on what they know, which may not be everything, but in their minds it is. You need to show them that you are loving of their son. That all starts with talking to them. I know it's really hard, but it can work pretty quickly.