[yas]

I'm married for the past two years to my boyfriend. being a love marraige both our parents didn't accept. The only way bringing them together is a baby. even i'm feeling lonely as he leaves in de morning n comes late at night. but my husband refuses. he says he don't want one atleast for 2 more years. i tried convincing him abt this. but he is stubborn. He justs pull away very carefully atleast before 5 mins of his ejaculation. i"m very annoyed abt this. how do i stop him from doing that. how can i become pregnent soon.. please help me out..

[WildChild]

Having a baby should be a mutual decision based on a desire to have a child, not based on loneliness or what you think someone else would want.
What would you do if you had a child and your parents still weren't accepting?
Can you get out and work? Even some volunteer work? Or further your education? How about a hobby or learning some new skills like sewing or gardening?

[Hopeless Dork]

Okay... YOU want a baby... you want a baby to mend fences with your family etc... understood. But do you want to love that baby, that child? That man or woman it will one way grow into be? What do you want them to see when they look up at their father? Do you want them to see him beeming with pride? Or do you want them to see a man looking at them with regret, like a burdeon he took on to soon?

If your husband wants to wait two years, and you want sooner... talk about compromising... maybe waiting a year? But its not fair to simply force him into a baby he isn't ready for.. simply to make your families get along more. This would be a life you are creating, that is a very big deal. Its not a bargaining chip, its a human being.

Think about what you are saying, realizing that the most important thing is your family, your love of your husband -- his love of you... do not cloud that love with deception and trying to trick him into a baby before he's ready -- you guys are on the same team, talk and work on it together as far as when to have a baby... but since he is going to be responsible for providing for the child -- his opinion on when he's ready to have one matters.

[Mr. Inquisitive]

He said he wants to wait a couple of years why can't you just wait?

[nyx]

Having a baby is a big decision that both of you should agree on first. I can understand that your parents may not accept your relationship, but a baby is not the way to go. Plus this isn't a Lifetime movie (NOT meant to be offensive). Unless they have said to you that the only way to bring them together is a baby then there is really no way you could know that. They may react completely differently or not at all. I'm not sure how old you are so I could be wrong, but what they probably want is for both of you to show your maturity and that you guys made the right decision by getting married. Having a baby will not show them this.

If your husband wants to wait two years, and you want sooner... talk about compromising... maybe waiting a year? But its not fair to simply force him into a baby he isn't ready for.. simply to make your families get along more.

I think Hopeless Dork has pretty much summed it up there. You shouldn't just make him do it, but a compromise is a great idea. I also think that maybe you should wait until mending your families isn't the ultimate goal. You might be glad you did.

[Horacio]

You are treating a baby as something you can play with and show off, a baby is not a sports car. It is a responsibility, I've had to explain this to my wife multiple times. You need to tell your parents that they have a choice, either accept your husband and the life you have chosen for yourself, or not be a part of your life. Parents can be stubborn, but when they feel like they will lose a child they become more open. I've been in your husbands shoes before, recently married, parents unapproved, didn't even show up to the wedding, but when they realize they were losing their daughter they became more open to me and are now a big part of my family.

[kristalyn_04]

I'm married for the past two years to my boyfriend. being a love marraige both our parents didn't accept.

I'm confused... if you're married, why are you referring to him as your "boyfriend"? And why would your parents disapprove of being married out of love? Isn't that what marriage is supposed to be about? Or is this because of a differing cultural belief, or your parents don't approve of him for some reason?

The only way bringing them together is a baby. even i'm feeling lonely as he leaves in de morning n comes late at night. but my husband refuses. he says he don't want one atleast for 2 more years. i tried convincing him abt this. but he is stubborn. He justs pull away very carefully atleast before 5 mins of his ejaculation. i"m very annoyed abt this. how do i stop him from doing that. how can i become pregnent soon.. please help me out..

I don't understand how a baby would bring your families together if they didn't approve of the marriage in the first place. Regardless, I agree with what everyone else said in that it's not a good reason to have a baby. A child shouldn't be brought into the world to mend family discrepancies, that would be very unfair to the child, your husband, and to you. Have a baby because both you and your husband want to love and raise that child together... if he's not ready then talk to him about it and compromise. You might just have to wait until he is ready, and you are ready to do it for the right reasons.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

You believe it will bring the family together, yet it will bring your family apart, you, your husband and child because you didn't have a baby for you, nor him, rather other people...

Wait...

[rcoreyus]

Having a baby is the most important decision of your life, and one that can NEVER be undone. You are taking on a responsibility for the rest of your life.

You and your husband MUST agree on this - it is terribly unfair to him to pressure (or trick) him into being a father, and terribly unfair to bring a child into the world who is not wanted by one of his parents.

Talk with your husband, understand what he is thinking, and let him understand you. In the end though, if he does not want children and you do, then you cannot be happy together.

[yas]

Thanx 4 all ur concerns i'll try convincing him as u guys said. one more thing i love kids n i value them