[cool_girl]

hello every body

i'm around 25 years old and i have pretty relationship with a nice man .. his love for me is .. like dream .. he is the best lover i ever know in my life .

but i have a problem and its make me feel so sad and really worry .. about losing this pretty love .

when i was about 16 years old i start discover my self .. i was inter my hand inside my knickers and touch my self i was enjoy it then i start do it with several parts of my body .. and i was enjoy it more and more .

but with time i find this is wrong and make me feel bad about my self cause i start cum fast not as past , i start not enjoy it so i decide to stop doing that to my self .

and since 6 months i did not back to masturbation not at all
and i feel happay for this steep , but i did not make sex with my bf untell this day .
i feel scare to make love with him .. then i find my self cold in my Sexual relationship or not feel happy with him and lose this sweet love cause i cant be happy .

i do not want him to know i was masturbation my self .. i feel shy to let him know that about me .

he always say i love in all ur case .. if u make love with me or not .. i love for ur soul not just for ur body .

inside my heart although when i hear this i feel happy & i feel sad in same time .. .. cause my friend told me that i will never enjoy sex with him .. and may not have orgasm with him in my sexual relationshipe for long time .

i do not know what to do , when i think about make love to him i feel so sad and i just refuse do it with him .

i need some help some tips .
i want to know what i should do to avoid this feeling ( not have orgasm ) .

THANKS 4 All .

[cool_girl]

by the way i'm still virgin cause i do not want give my body for any one .. just for my only true love which i have now .
how i can pass my fears and make sex with him .

[jns]

cg, he is probably as nervous about this as you are. Instead of jumping right into intercourse, why don't you both take some time exploring each other. The masturbation you did was not wrong. He learning to do it on you could be one of the steps of learning about you and your body. When letting him explore your body, lose yourself in the sensations and the love you feel. Of course, he should be happy if you do the same exploration of him. Exploring every part of a lover with kisses, licks and sometimes nips is also exciting and fun.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

It sounds to me that your fear is/was that you are a virgin and you felt "bad" for touching yourself somewhere along the line and so you started not feeling anything and therefore you stopped, now you fear you won't orgasm, or get wet at all with your boyfriend.....

You can not feel, when there are no feelings, be it self love for yourself or love for someone else...



Your friend is wrong, because you have learnt to be a woman, what you did, was exactly that, you learnt to be a woman and the greatest achievement is to experiement and learn and grow as a woman, knowing her own body and you've done that...Your friend is saying as a virgin, the feeling you had by yourself, may not come straight away with a man because, your body has not experienced a man yet, that is all she is saying.

If you are ready embrase it, do not fear because when you love someone it shows through everything you do.....

[WildChild]

Cool girl there is nothing wrong with masturbating. It is a good way to learn your body and it's responses.

[cool_girl]

i'm greatfull for all of you
your comments help me to have alot of confidence about my self than befoer and seriously they stop my worries
i just want to get ready for the next steep
i feel comfortable and much better about what i will face and how i will taste it .
Thanks alot from all my heart .