[jns]

I am married 25 years and my wife and I are still learning new ways to please each other. It's a life-long work.

I like: "It's a lifelong journey." and "It's a lifelong adventure." better.

[jns]

I`ve always thought my husband was hyper-vigilant about satisfying me. After reading this thread I no longer think it`s hyper-vigilance, it`s just him trying to best lover he can be. These men seem to be selfish, at least in bed. It seems like they`re just in to getting what they need. Not asking "What can I do to make it good for her too?" And the women are just accepting it.

This is what I have observed also. I suppose that selfish genes want to replicate also, but why do so many women fall for selfish guys? I don't think the situation is getting better.