[xckx]

I'm a young guy, that has no problems in bed. I can get it up and it stays up until my partner is satisfied. So there haven't been any problems in bed as far as my concern...

So that being said, I got my very first massage today. It was my first time ever getting a massage, and the place was offering a special of only 25 dollars for 30 mins. It was going really well, and the massage was well worth the money. So... I don't know about most guys who get a massage, but I couldn't help but get a bit hard when she was rubbing me down from head to toe. I assumed these masseuses understand, so I just tried to ignore it and let her do the massage. So it was almost done and she told me to turn over. I was kind of embarrassed because I definitely had a semi. I turned over and embarrassingly said "Yeah... Sorry about that". She said it was okay, and she started to stroke me. I was kind of shocked about the whole thing. I am fully aware of "happy endings" but I thought that sort of thing was rare and they only do it for extra money.

But it felt really good, and I definitely wasn't going to stop her.... Here's when it gets really embarrassing for me... I know what you're thinking, she stroked me 2 times and I came faster than anything before. But it was the total opposite. I COULD NOT come. She was stroking me pretty hard for at least 5 mins, and I thought I was going to come for sure, but I just couldn't for some reason... I told her she could stop and thanked her for the massage and the surprise at the end. Then I left feeling so bad because I really wanted to come but it didn't happen.

What went wrong here? Has any other guys had this happen before?

[kristalyn_04]

Are you in a relationship? If so, maybe you were feeling guilty about what was happening. If not, maybe there was a feeling of it being wrong because she was supposed to be in a professional work setting. Perhaps that feeling of it being "forbidden" and her being a stranger made you uncomfortable and so you couldn't come. Although some guys find the whole forbidden thing hot and erotic, some don't which is ok.

Honestly I've never heard of a masseuse giving a "happy ending" in a professional workplace, at least not in the US. They could lose their jobs over that, which might not be worth the extra tips.

[xckx]

Are you in a relationship? If so, maybe you were feeling guilty about what was happening. If not, maybe there was a feeling of it being wrong because she was supposed to be in a professional work setting. Perhaps that feeling of it being "forbidden" and her being a stranger made you uncomfortable and so you couldn't come. Although some guys find the whole forbidden thing hot and erotic, some don't which is ok.

Honestly I've never heard of a masseuse giving a "happy ending" in a professional workplace, at least not in the US. They could lose their jobs over that, which might not be worth the extra tips.

I'm not in a relationship right now, and I wasn't feeling guilty.

Also I don't know what the rules and laws are on happy endings, but I don't think it's anything to be worried about as a masseuse. I live in Canada, so I don't know what it's like in the US. But generally it's usually an agreement between 2 adults and the person receiving the massage has ever right to say no thanks. As for the professional workplace, I'm not going to lie... It wasn't a high class upscale massage parlor, It was a small building in a market square downtown. I don't even think she works for anyone, probably does it herself for the money.

Anyways, thanks for the suggestion, but I don't think that was the problem.

[jns]

I'm a young guy, that has no problems in bed. I can get it up and it stays up until my partner is satisfied. So there haven't been any problems in bed as far as my concern...

So that being said, I got my very first massage today. It was my first time ever getting a massage, and the place was offering a special of only 25 dollars for 30 mins. It was going really well, and the massage was well worth the money. So... I don't know about most guys who get a massage, but I couldn't help but get a bit hard when she was rubbing me down from head to toe. I assumed these masseuses understand, so I just tried to ignore it and let her do the massage. So it was almost done and she told me to turn over. I was kind of embarrassed because I definitely had a semi. I turned over and embarrassingly said "Yeah... Sorry about that". She said it was okay, and she started to stroke me. I was kind of shocked about the whole thing. I am fully aware of "happy endings" but I thought that sort of thing was rare and they only do it for extra money.

But it felt really good, and I definitely wasn't going to stop her.... Here's when it gets really embarrassing for me... I know what you're thinking, she stroked me 2 times and I came faster than anything before. But it was the total opposite. I COULD NOT come. She was stroking me pretty hard for at least 5 mins, and I thought I was going to come for sure, but I just couldn't for some reason... I told her she could stop and thanked her for the massage and the surprise at the end. Then I left feeling so bad because I really wanted to come but it didn't happen.

What went wrong here? Has any other guys had this happen before?

A lot of climaxing is letting go. In this case, you weren't mentally prepared to let go and her masturbating you took you out of your comfort zone. Don't dwell on it. It isn't the same as if you were in a relationship or even having casual sex with a stranger. Maybe you weren't attracted to her, maybe you didn't have the proper visual stimulation, maybe you were too relaxed, etc.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

https://www.womens-health.com/boards/sex/33904-rare-ejaculation-during-massage.html

Here's some previous answers on a simular post.... that may help put your mind at ease...

CW

[xckx]

A lot of climaxing is letting go. In this case, you weren't mentally prepared to let go and her masturbating you took you out of your comfort zone. Don't dwell on it. It isn't the same as if you were in a relationship or even having casual sex with a stranger. Maybe you weren't attracted to her, maybe you didn't have the proper visual stimulation, maybe you were too relaxed, etc.

Thank you jns for this insight. I did not really think about these things until you mention it now, it was most likely the case.

Also, thank you CW for that topic.