[darcdante]

I tend to be a playful, more than passionate. So I might start with tender kisses to the neck, and then let out a "mmmmmm" sort of moan, so she knows what I want. Then it's up to her to reciprocate with kisses, cause if she doesn't, I go for the boobs lol.

But I'm wondering how other people do it. I remember reading one of those "Help" sections in the newspaper or something once where a woman wrote in and said, "I love my husband, and we have a great sexlife, but sometimes I wish he'd just slam me into the wall, say I 'I want to lick you until you cum,' then go to town."

And I tell ya, sometimes I wish I could or would do that. Or though it'd work without me just looking like an idiot lol. Hence my question!

[ItsASecret]

Usually my bf will be rubbing my shoulders or something while watching tv and he will slip a hand between my legs, clothes on, and just rub for a second or two not a long time and then kiss my neck and that is when I know his boner is coming and then the quiet question of "want to go do stuff?" or " want to go into the bedroom?". Nothing over the top like slamming me into a wall and nothing like "please please can we have sex" he does not do that stuff which is good as I would sooner have it in more subtle ways. Myself I rarely initiate (I do not like to take control), if I do it is next to nothing like a quick hand on his junk then a quick kiss as that is literally all it takes and he has a massive boner and is ready to go.

[Guest]

Honestly, I often feel like one of those Cialis commercials. Because for me and the SO the feeling can strike at any time.

I haven't slammed my SO into a wall per se but I have done something similar to what you described and it was hot, hot, hot!

IMO - When the urge comes over you again, I'd say go for it! It's ended up amazing each time I've attempted it and yes, I have stumbled/fumbled or felt like an idiot at times when trying to remove her clothing. Oh well, who cares?

[missinthelove]

I normally am not the one to start but when I do I just kiss his neck and down his back and start. To play with him a little. When he starts it he just starts to tickle me down there and so on

[spurzzz]

Well im single at the moment, so I would say the closest I get to anyone trying it on with me is when i go shopping and one of the checkout girls ask me if i would like "help" with or "assistance" ...... I don't hear anything after that ....

Don't judge!

I'll get my coat......

[feliciacarpenter]

Seconding neck kisses and upper thigh touch. Sometimes he'll hug me from behind while I'm in the middle of something, when he does that, I know he's ready to go like a rocket, haha!

[pdq]

We used to say " rub my back" to start things off. There realy was notenough frequency or perhaps quality to these forms of marital intimacy. Things changed when I introduced lingerie into the mix. Always tasteful and respectfull. Even this was random to start with but better since there was some preparation involved. Then I started selecting what I wanted her to wear and laid it on her pillow. Bingo this worked. I select panties and a gown or a teddie the night before and she wears that selected outfit to bed. I shower and shave at night and we make love early the next morning. We do this every second day through her cycle other than when she has her period and does not want sex. It works perfectly there is no arguments we know we will make love and wedo it often enough and very regularly. We average 13 times each month sometimes more and sometimes less by one time. This is after 21 years of marraige. Scheduling marital relations works. I like to add to her collection of lingerie and I shop for it regularly. We generally get things that are modest like long gowns and she likes to wear panties with them. The lingerie usually stays in place as we make love and we lift the gowns up or move them and put the panties off to one side for oral sex or intercorse. It all works and we select styles that provide for comfort that are respectful yet which certainly provide for acess. These styles also keep things neat and tidy in our bed as they contain my ejaculate. We refined what we like over time and select long sensuL slippery gowns made from lace and satin or nylon. Some provide acess to breasts ans some do not. Ther provide for diffrent possitions but she also knows what she likes and this includes masssage and oral sex which I am more than happy to provide. She is thus well satisfied and ready for me.

[darcdante]

Then I started selecting what I wanted her to wear and laid it on her pillow. Bingo this worked. I select panties and a gown or a teddie the night before and she wears that selected outfit to bed.

I think that's an AWESOME idea! It's like the man taking control, but with preparation as well. I'm going to try this.

[darcdante]

Apparently I can't edit a post after 5 minutes, but I wanna say lmaospurzzz.

Maybe I can ask you all something else...what time of day does the initiation work best for you? In my own relationship, I always try in the morning, but that's probably cause I'm a guy and we wake up very randy. My fiance feels dirty doing it that way though. Not like naughty dirty, but sleeping in a bed all night stinky dirty lol. So she initiates it at night, when I'm tired. Probably doesn't help that we work different shifts.

[WildChild]

Humm, well, he'll sit down on the couch and I'll just climb into his lap, facing him, straddling his legs and start kissing him or playing with his hair and maybe running a finger down his forehead to his nose and lips and on down his neck and start nibbling.
Or he might be laying on the floor stretching his back and I'll if I'm wearing a dress or skirt, rarely wear undies with those, I may just stand over him or lay down and snuggle up next to him.
If we watch a movie or are just sitting and talking, we are usually doing a little massage here and there on each other, running a tongue around an ear or stealing kisses.
We just aren't around each other generally, unless one or both of us is working on something, without some kind of touch going on.
Often times one or the other of us will just say, lets go get naked.
I'd say its pretty close to 50/50 who initiates.