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  • leleyar21
    Junior Member
    • Apr 2011
    • 2

    high sex drive 1 year after childbirth

    So, I had my daughter nearly a year ago and suddenly my sex drive is incredibly high. I am 21 so still young. As a young teenager and up until i hit 18 I was very sexually active and loved sex. Then I met my husband when i was 17 and we began a relationship and were ing like rabbits and were extremely attracted to each other. Then shortly after I turned 18 my sex drive completely dropped to almost zero, and things continued this way for a long time; even when I got pregnant at 19. During pregnancy things got even worse, it became physically painful for me to have sex. Then after I had my daughter and was healed and ready to have sex again, things started slow and I still didn't have the greatest sex drive but things were getting better and it wasn't painful anymore. And up until about a month ago my sex drive was still insanely low and I just didn't want it. Then out of nowhere i needed it all the time. I was constantly horny and at first masturbation or sex with my husband (which is rare because we work opposite shifts and have a baby, although it was more than before) would satisfy me and i would be ok. Now no matter how many times or how long i have sex with my husband or masturbate, i still need more. And what is really not making things better is that he is picking up extra shifts all the time so when he is home he is mostly sleeping and then i attack him for sex but lately he is so tired he can't even keep it up. I am so frustrated I don't know what to do. And the kicker is that I have a "friend" who i have a sexual past with and have cheated on my husband a few times with when we were still only dating wants me and I don't want to go there. I need help if anyone can offer suggestions or advice I am all ears. Please help me.

    Thanks for even reading,
    Lele
  • oxy-moron
    Veteran Member
    • Oct 2010
    • 551

    Hi
    Check that you dont have symptoms for PCOS.
    If you are not pregnant or Breastfeeding you could try Saw Palmetto tablets. They will tend to normalise your hormones.

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    • randomguy2011
      Member
      • Mar 2011
      • 14

      Originally posted by leleyar21
      And the kicker is that I have a "friend" who i have a sexual past with and have cheated on my husband a few times with when we were still only dating wants me and I don't want to go there.

      Lele
      If sex with your husband doesn't help you why would cheating on him help you? Makes no sense. Maybe try talking to him about before you cheat on him and destroy your marriage.

      I laugh and at the same time feel bad for your husband. Picking up extra shifts to help make ends meat and you not only consider cheating on him but make it sound like you have no choice "i don't wanna go there". This guy is working himself so hard that he can't make it through sex with his wife and you consider cheating on him. Quite frankly you non-shalance about it is concerning.

      Let me give you this piece of advice. If he is busting his butt for his family like you say and he finds out you're cheating it will not be good. You think he'd rather be at work than home making love to you?? Probably not but he is doiing what he feels he has to.

      I'm just amazed by your post.

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      • LanaBear
        Veteran Member
        • Jul 2009
        • 8373

        Originally posted by randomguy2011
        If sex with your husband doesn't help you why would cheating on him help you? Makes no sense. Maybe try talking to him about before you cheat on him and destroy your marriage.

        I laugh and at the same time feel bad for your husband. Picking up extra shifts to help make ends meat and you not only consider cheating on him but make it sound like you have no choice "i don't wanna go there". This guy is working himself so hard that he can't make it through sex with his wife and you consider cheating on him. Quite frankly you non-shalance about it is concerning.

        Let me give you this piece of advice. If he is busting his butt for his family like you say and he finds out you're cheating it will not be good. You think he'd rather be at work than home making love to you?? Probably not but he is doiing what he feels he has to.

        I'm just amazed by your post.
        Couldn't have said it better...

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