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  • xckx
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    • Mar 2011
    • 12

    Masturbating before sex issue

    This has probably been brought up a lot of times, but just to make sure I wanted to ask.

    How long before sex is it good to masturbate in order to last longer. For me I usually do 12-24 hours and that makes me usually last a good 30-45 mins. However, sometimes I feel like I'm just masturbating before sex only to pleasure my partner because I'm not really in the mood. But this is where the trade off comes into play, If I wait like 3-5 days before masturbating, I'm really horny but I don't last nearly as long. I'm still a young guy so I don't want to get in the habit of always masturbating before sex, I just want to go in natural whenever and last long enough to get my partner to climax as well.
  • WildChild
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    • Sep 2008
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    It great that you are considering this. I think there is no set answer as each man is different. Young men usually have a pretty short recovery time. If you cum how long until you are ready to go again? What happens if your partner gets you off with a bj or hj? Can you then focus on her arousal and be ready to make love to her when she is ready? Do kegel exercises will give you more control over your ejaculation too.

    My partner and I are well past 40 and he rarely masturbates and has little interest in porn. He prefers to safe his energy for me and can often go a second time within an hour or so. As men get older they aren't quite so quick to respond to indirect stimulus but I've noted that he has essentially trained himself to become aroused when I am and last as long as need be. So basically getting me turned on, turns him on. I think this is an excellent place to be as you mature.

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    • xckx
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      • Mar 2011
      • 12

      Originally posted by WildChild
      It great that you are considering this. I think there is no set answer as each man is different. Young men usually have a pretty short recovery time. If you cum how long until you are ready to go again? What happens if your partner gets you off with a bj or hj? Can you then focus on her arousal and be ready to make love to her when she is ready? Do kegel exercises will give you more control over your ejaculation too.
      If I cum I'm usually ready to go in like another 30 mins-1 hour, but there is definitely no desire to. And if I do, my penis would be a bit sore after the second go, lol... That's why I don't masturbate like 1 or 2 hours before sex then it's really not good for me, no matter how long I last. However, I still haven't had back to back sex within the hour. But ill look into those kegel exercises, though.

      Originally posted by WildChild
      My partner and I are well past 40 and he rarely masturbates and has little interest in porn. He prefers to safe his energy for me and can often go a second time within an hour or so. As men get older they aren't quite so quick to respond to indirect stimulus but I've noted that he has essentially trained himself to become aroused when I am and last as long as need be. So basically getting me turned on, turns him on. I think this is an excellent place to be as you mature.
      Well, I'm not going to lie.. I'm a bit naughty and have various different partners (1 night stands) on more then one occasion. It's nice to know that when I start to settle down with someone, regular frequent sex is bound to help the issue. Also I like how you said what turns him on is you turned on. I am the exact same way, theres nothing I like more in hearing my partner moan and scream :P

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