[Guest]

I am a guy that really enjoys giving my women oral pleasure. I have not been with a ton of different women, but the women I have been with, seemed to have had an unwritten code as to when it was OK for me to give them oral sex. If there was a time when it wasn't comfortable for them (I'm presuming for hygiene reasons) they would guide me back up north when I began to head south. This always prevented me from an unpleasant surprise in the past. My current girlfriend does not do this and never stops me. I have taken her green light whenever she gives it to me, and assumed that it was OK to go down and please her. Unfortunately recently I have gotten some unpleasant surprises that let me know that she is comfortable with receiving oral pleasure at most any time. Now I am not talking period time here, just times on not being completely fresh and clean. I need some help from you women out there. How do I tell her that although I love to give her oral pleasure, I would really appreciate it if she was Fresh when I do. Am I wrong here? Will she be embarrassed? Upset? It's not all the time, but I find now that I am shying away from something we both enjoy now. Help!

[WildChild]

Best thing is to sit down and talk about it some time when you aren't having sex.
You could entice her into the shower with you and then make a lightly teasing comment or two about how great it is when you are both clean and fresh.

[jns]

Is she a person who prizes good personal hygiene? Do you? Showers together and washing up before sex are good habits for both. Don't forget mouth hygiene, also.

[oxy-moron]

Do not mention it to her. Seriously- talking to a women about her personal hygiene may just get you less sex. Just pick your times. Or do the after shower thing like WC says.
Personally it never bothers me -In fact a lack of odour is disappointing- The smell of pheremones-mmmm.

[kimaya]

No dear u r right getting fresh before having sex is good for both of you...and about telling her about it depends on how she take it and most importantly how you explain it to her. just give her an example that one of ur friend causes problem due unhygene oral sex..hope she will take it positively.

[Hopeless Dork]

Tricky situation. It is possible for you to really hurt her feelings here... so you want to tread real careful if you care about her. Wildchilds suggestion is truly the best. Or like oxy says... only make a move towards oral when you know she's just recently showered so that you are in the totally fresh zone.

For me, before me and my boyfriend even snuggle up to watch a show I make sure to do a refresh- just in case -- lol. I shower daily, but I like to keep it extra spiffy -- so that I can feel completely comfortable with him down there. But there has been a time when he caught me off gaurd and I wasn't feeling as spiffy , as in... it was the evening and my shower was in the morning -- and I steered him away ... and there has been a time or 2 when I just gave into the pleasure and didn't care about the fact I wasn't at super duper ultra fresh out the shower status...

And I would be heartbroken and crushed if he brought that to my attention, the way I see it, if its only a rarity... just don't spend the time down there when it isn't what it usually is-- and make up for that one the days its the way you like it.

Women in general are INSANELY self concious about our parts and it sounds like your girl is one that is pretty comfortable in her skin -- don't take that away from her.

[Guest]

I always believe that the best oral sex for both men and women is after a shower. Having said that, if you feel like pulling down your ladies panties at any time and delving in then fine if it's ok with her. Both sexes have a duty to their partner to keep themselves fresh and clean as often as possible.

[Jim60]

Theres a difference between a womanly aroma and being completely rank - one is normal, though not all may enjoy it and prefer the just out of the shower situation. Rank is poor hygiene. Personally I don't mind a little fruityness, but in general it's nice to be freshly showered, or the night before if it's a morning session, just because you can go anywhere without concern. My wife feels the same, we would really never go to bed without showering, but it doesn't stop us enjoying a sweaty quicky elsewhere occasionaly.

As to your dilema, how about you turning down a BJ next time she heads down there saying you didn't shower and it wouldn't be nice for her? She might get the hint. It's a delicate subject.

[Texinator]

An unpleasant smell/taste can also be the sign of an infection. Yeah, she'd find out eventually anyway, when the pain hits, but she might appreciate being able to catch it as early as possible.

[Guest]

Great Idea. I like your way of thinking here. Get the point across without her thinking it is her. Thanks.