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  • gal007
    Junior Member
    • Apr 2011
    • 6

    Sex.

    Hi
    I dont know whether this is the right place to post this but I have a question on sex and sexuality. My question is quite simply, what does it feel like to have sex for the first time? Does it hurt? Lots of you may think Im trying to be rude or see me as immature but ever since I was younger I was terrified Id be in alot of pain when the time came and I think the time is getting ever closer. Any help would be much appreciated. I hope you ladies are all well

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  • kristalyn_04
    Veteran Member
    • Oct 2009
    • 2164

    I was in very little discomfort the first time. I would suggest getting used to fingering first, and having an orgasm or two first before moving on to penetration. If you are very aroused and well lubricated, it shouldn't hurt. Of course there are always exceptions, like if he is very large and you are on the small side, but even then you can make it work if he doesn't penetrate all the way.

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    • FortunsFoole
      Senior Member
      • Apr 2011
      • 156

      It is really important to have a lot of foreplay beforehand... and fingering can help to get things ready a bit by getting that area a little more relaxed. I was of the mindset I just wanted to get the pain over with because it made me so anxious wondering about it that we jumped the gun a bit. Going back I would have definitely made sure my body was revved up and ready to go first. It's a completely different feeling.

      Everyone is different but to me it felt like an indian burn during (and at the beginning for the next few times after that)... and afterwards for a couple days it was kinda like I had a charlie horse between my legs. It was by no means unbearable or excruciating, but it wasn't pleasant.

      It would probably also help to have yourself on top so you can go as slow or fast as you need to.

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      • spurzzz
        Veteran Member
        • Mar 2011
        • 246

        Just take it easy. When you get your ears pierced it hurts somewhat, but when you keep sticking the earing in afterwards it doesn't.....

        Plenty of Foreplay, lube and calming features like some good music, candles and a good peaceful setting should make for a swell time (pun intended)

        Unless he has a donkey sized penis then your screwed (pun intended)
        I am going to tell you what you don't want to hear!
        Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't

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        • jns
          Assistant Admin
          • Mar 2010
          • 8398

          Originally posted by spurzzz
          Unless he has a donkey sized penis then your screwed (pun intended)
          Actually, you shouldn't get screwed if you can't handle it unless he is a real donkey.
          I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
          ...
          Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

          From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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