[Little_Man_in_the_Boat]

Why do men expect all these strange things ?

If you don't feel like moaning dont do it.

Don't do anything you dont really want to do.

OK just fake it cause thats what he wants.

I must confess if a women moans it is erotic I guess that is why he wants you to do it.

I prefer women to just be themselves and not fake it or pretend to be enjoying it.

[LilahX]

It's one thing to share what you'd like out of sex, but another to expect yr partner to do something they don't feel comfortable with. My first thought when I read he wants you to moan his name was 'what an ego'. Does he need reassurance that he's a good lover or something?

We all want to please our partners, but sex is about both of you and what works for both. Personally I love a vocal guy, but they're few and far between and I'd never ask a lover to be something he's not. Yes, I'd tell him what I like but then it's up to him if can accommodate my desires. If not, and I have a deep emotional connection, then it doesn't matter if I don't get everything i want. One element of sex does not make the total experience.

Be honest with him. Tell him you'd love to be a moaner, but it makes you uncomfortable to be concentrating on trying and it detracts from your enjoyment. I could be very cheeky and suggest you say 'well maybe you're not making me feel like moaning' and let him take some of the responsibility! ASk him if he'd rather have the real you or one who's just aiming to please - hopefully he'll get the point.

[Guest]

Moaning comes naturally when you are high at....... Ask him to take you to that level.

[punchdrunkloved]

I tend to be a bit too noisy at times lol pillows have been used and a hand over my mouth but I always tell him its his fault because it feels so good. I don't think I ever really would say anything though until my husband began asking me things, I am always so wrapped up in the moment trying to answer him but enjoying the moment that he says it comes out kind of drawn out and sexy. I know its sometimes easier said than done because none of us want to be foolish but honestly when your enjoying the moment try to relax and just be in the moment. Eventually it may just come naturally to you.

[Texasred]

My wife is so utterly silent that it's almost unnerving - maybe because she seems to treat sex like a chore she needs to do periodically... and get over with as soon as possible.

[wendilee]

silence is boring. even just a little noise is better than nothing.
when my x used to hit the spot, i would tell him, right there, yes yes...and make noises like this was the best ( chocolate, pizza, hamburger it doesnt matter) i had ever had.
it makes him feel good, and the sex was awesome.
try to loosen up a little. if you find that you just can not do that, then he will have to deal with it.

[WildChild]

I'm am a bit vocal sexually but I'm not into conversational sex. I go to a deeper place than words when I'm into it. If I have to stay on a level of consciousness that I can follow a script, chances are I'm not going to cum, I'll be too focused on the script and the words. I am working on this because there are some conscious sexual practices I want to bring into my life but I will be doing it to take things to another much higher level.

That said, having silent sex, to me is dry. The only time its a good thing is if you are some place you don't want to be noticed. LOL.
The noises of sex are important, as are breathing patterns, they enhance the experience.
I remember when I first realized that some people were sexually silent. It was back in the days when the only way to see porn on film was to go to a theater or arcade and you had to be 21 to do that and women just generally didn't. We didn't have exposure to staged sex to warp our natural responses. I'd guess I was 17 or 18, riding in a friend's car, Donna Summer's, Love to Love You, was on the radio, my friend got very huffy. "No one makes sounds like that! I never make any sounds during sex!" I was dumbfounded. It had never occurred to me that anyone would not make sounds during sex, unless they had to force themselves to be silent. The understanding that came to me at that moment was that she wasn't ogasmic, she must not really like sex.

[oxy-moron]

WildChild.
I think that Dirty talk is the most powerful sexual tool there is bar none.
With a lot of ladies - there isn't the sexual imagination to get to the finish line by themselves- some good sexual imagery can take them there. It keeps them focused.
Once I worked out how effective it was I started using it regularly- It has to be continuously changed to keep it form going stale but that is a small price to pay.
Its not scripted - it is more about putting words around a simple erotic idea. And the idea or concept changes.

What may I ask are the conscious sexual practices????
You have me intrigued.

[tjbella]

I've found that my moans have changed over the last couple of years. I feel like they sound more forced these days. It's not something that I'm doing consciously but I always feel a little awkward now when I moan.

[WildChild]

WildChild.
I think that Dirty talk is the most powerful sexual tool there is bar none.
With a lot of ladies - there isn't the sexual imagination to get to the finish line by themselves- some good sexual imagery can take them there. It keeps them focused.
Once I worked out how effective it was I started using it regularly- It has to be continuously changed to keep it form going stale but that is a small price to pay.
Its not scripted - it is more about putting words around a simple erotic idea. And the idea or concept changes.

What may I ask are the conscious sexual practices????
You have me intrigued.

Tantra
Karezza
Pompoir
would be conscious sexual practices.