Is this normal or can it be fixed??
I am able to have an orgasm during oral sex, but when it comes to sex my orgasm is nowhere to be found! We have tried lubricants and different creams. I want to get that sensation from my husband! The creams and lubricants just don't work. Can u please tell me what is going on? I thought about female Viagra, but not sure if it will help. Please le me know if I am going crazy! I want to enjoy sex more with my husband, but this is holding me back.
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In my experiance this is "perfectly normal". By which I mean it is not an uncommon complaint. I am willing to bet you need direct clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Nothing wrong with getting that stimulation through oral or manual means. If you want to achieve it through sexual intercourse; this too can probably be "achieved". Start with direct stimulation and ask yourself;" What about this is "pleasing"? And then; "What position for intercourse is going to cause the same type of stimulation? Does it require a "little help"? Many couple include manual stimulation of the clitoral area WITH intercourse.
Anyway- "normal" means NOTHING- it is the setting on a wash machine.
However you and your husband "please each other" is great and NORMAL for you.....besides...experimenting with different postions can be a lot of FUN
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Hi Saharajim,
We experiment a lot lol! The only thing is having an orgasm. I have kind of come to the realization that having an orgasm during sex is not possible. I just want him to feel less of a man because I can't. The vibration is what does it. I don't think he can move his penis that fast lol! But thank you for the advise I will keep that in mindComment
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Hi Saharajim,
We experiment a lot lol! The only thing is having an orgasm. I have kind of come to the realization that having an orgasm during sex is not possible. I just want him to feel less of a man because I can't. The vibration is what does it. I don't think he can move his penis that fast lol! But thank you for the advise I will keep that in mindComment
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Have you considered using one of the "clip on finger" type vibrators on his hand as he has "doggy style" intercourse with you and reaches around to toy with your clitoral area? Had a college girlfriend who absolutely loved that and she also liked using a "small vibrator to slide between us to hit her there when we had "missionary style." I never felt "less a man" because we used a "little help" to have her "screaming happy".
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