My husband only wants to have oral sex.
We've only been married a couple weeks, but my husband never has vaginal intercourse with me. Even on the honeymoon, he only wanted to have oral sex. He says it's because he "doesn't want to hurt me", but I don't know what to think. Even when I give him oral sex, he doesn't have an erection. I asked him if he's sure that he's sexually attracted to me, and he insists that he is and that I'm "the most beautiful girl he's ever seen". What should I think? And why is he so preoccupied with giving me oral sex?
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I know a lot of women who would trade places with you.
Seriously though it sounds like he's either really bashful or this type of activity isn't what floats his boat. Does he watch porn? If so, what's his favorite genre? Does he show any gay or bisexual proclivities?
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He doesn't watch any porn, and he hasn't shown any signs of being gay or bisexual...wouldn't it be strange that he won't have intercourse with me? Technically/legally, doesn't that mean that our marriage has yet to be consummated?Comment
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Might just be erectile disfunction. Get him checked by a doctor.Comment
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I'm going to try that. I'll talk to him tonight. How could I approach it without making him feel as though I'm questioning his manhood?Comment
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Could the fact that we agreed to wait till marriage to have sex have anything to do with it?Comment
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Maybe he has an aversion to intercourse. Is he excessively worried about germs or cleanliness? Did he agree to wait very readily? Has he had intercourse before?I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
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Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?
From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, VirginiaComment
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Start with a conversation.
Does he wake up with an erection?
If not get him in to have his testosterone levels checked.
You say he doesn't have an erection when you give him oral? Does he get one as you get into it?
Does he have erections? When? What gets him going?Comment
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