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  • amyjo
    Member
    • Dec 2009
    • 24

    am i having an orgasm?

    so me and my guy will be fooling around, ya know but like in the movies, you see the actress is screaming and saying "oh yes!" when she is having an orgasm and then she hits that high point and is done.. well for me, ive never really had that screaming "oh yes" moment. i can just be fooling around, without sex, and get to a little bit higher point of horniness and its like "ahhh" and then i feel done and complete and im not horny anymore. am i experiencing an orgasm? or at least a small one? people always say "you will know ur having one when you do" but how do i know for sure. i mean it feels like it and i hit that higher point then i feel done. but i can get that feeling without even having sex. we might just be fooling around for a while and i might be riding him some and i get that high point feeling, and i go threw the high point then i feel done.. so am i having an orgasm??
  • WildChild
    Banned
    • Sep 2008
    • 14142

    Originally posted by amyjo
    but like in the movies, you see the actress is screaming and saying "oh yes!" when she is having an orgasm and then she hits that high point and is done..
    Key word - actress. Hint -they ACT
    Originally posted by amyjo
    ive never really had that screaming "oh yes" moment. i can just be fooling around, without sex, and get to a little bit higher point of horniness and its like "ahhh" and then i feel done and complete and im not horny anymore. am i experiencing an orgasm? or at least a small one? people always say "you will know ur having one when you do" but how do i know for sure. i mean it feels like it and i hit that higher point then i feel done. but i can get that feeling without even having sex. we might just be fooling around for a while and i might be riding him some and i get that high point feeling, and i go threw the high point then i feel done.. so am i having an orgasm??
    Yep that sounds like a little orgasm. Keep playing with it and you can learn to build it up to something bigger and longer lasting.

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    • oxy-moron
      Veteran Member
      • Oct 2010
      • 551

      I would say you probably are having one.
      Usually before Orgasm there will be swelling of the Area and the Clit will harden.
      Post Orgasm that swelling will abate pretty quickly- within a couple of minutes.
      Often the clit will be too sensitive to touch for a while.

      Try a slower build up or drop back from the stimulation before you come and build up again. Often slower build up equals bigger O.

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      • Richard S
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        • Mar 2008
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        “Oh,” she said. “I die each time. Do you not die?”

        “No. Almost. But did thee feel the earth move?”

        “Yes. As I died."

        -- Ernest Hemingway, from "For Whom the Bell Tolls."

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