[Cleo14]

I am not even sure if the title "new to sex" is fitting being that I have never actually had sex.
I am 20yrs old, and I just recently had a tell-all conversation with my mother about sex. All my life she told me she didn't wait till she was married to my father before they had sex, but that he was her one and only. That was until I recently I opened up to her about my curiosities. I told her marriages can go south, most do, like hers is currently going.
My point was I didn't/don't want to "wait till marriage" before I have sex. My virginity is not a token to be won by some possibly undeserving man. That is not to say I want to have sex with just anyone. I want my first time to be with someone I love and someone who loves me.
My mother then confessed that my father was by no means her first and that she did live and die in entire lifetimes before my father. She had to tell me the lie so I would have some direction, and so I wouldn't equate sex to simple fun.
But I asked; why can't sex be just sex? To which she replied, it can, just have to be safe.
I talked to my older sister shortly afterwards, explaining my new view on sex. She relieved to me that she was no longer a virgin and hadn't been for 5years. All the women I look up to trying to "point me in the right direction" knowing full well that keeping oneself doesn't have to mean that.

I guess the thing is, I am 20 years old, and I've been "pleasing myself since I was 10". I know what I like, and I am constantly in the mood and or thinking about hot, mad, passionate sex.
Issue? I don't have a boyfriend, someone whom I can act out all of my inhibitions with. I feel like an inexperienced yet extremely horny girl.
Any advice?

[jns]

Real sex may be both greater and less than your fantasies.

Find a boyfriend. There is someone out there for you. Find someone of good character, someone with a good personality for you, someone who can make you laugh. Find him somewhere where you normally go, whether that be the grocery store, the library, church, etc.

[rcoreyus]

I think it is good to have an active sex life before you get married. If it is with your future husband, then you will find out if you are compatible. If it is with someone else, then you will never be left wondering what you might have been missing.

I think it is good if your first time is with someone you care about and who cares about you, but I don't think it needs to be your "TRUE LOVE".

I don't think there is anything morally wrong with having sex with a random person, just for the sake of sex, but I think it will be a lot less enjoyable than with someone important to you.