[tallmeerkat]

hello, I am a 45 year old woman who has not had sexual intercourse. I have kissed 1 man 26 yrs ago. The other day I was with someone I like and after saying i didn't want to have full sex (he listened) we went to second base.........

Any advice pls regarding starting making love aged 45 years for first time ever?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Welcome tallmeerkat.

I am just wondering if I may, you say "the other day" so not long ago, you advised this guy you didn't want full sex and from the sounds of it he respected that, and things happened in a different light that you also have never experienced before but perhaps liked? Therefore, you are ready to give sex a try?

Is there a reason why you haven't in the past? I am only asking to try to get an understanding of you personally as making love for the first time is always scary but the persona, ie) are you shy, are you not, helps with the answers people may suggest to you.

[jns]

Just start slow.

Have you ever had an orgasm? I'm not sure because you don't state if you masturbate and you said you went to second base. Having an orgasm or several will help you relax and may get you wet enough to not need lubrication, otherwise you will probably need to use lubricant for sex. If you can hold off for several times, have your friend continue to explore your body and continue to explore his. Then when you are ready to have sex, have him start by only inserting the tip until you are comfortable then slowly, in several stages, insert more. He should pause to make sure you are comfortable. He has to be patient. There might be some pain associated, but it should be only a small amount. Has your hymen been broken? If so there could be somewhat more pain.