[lostinlove123]

he is not open about talking about it when I start talking about "my needs" but when it comes to "his needs" he is better at talking about it..infact we always go the way he wants..this is why I want to take some control in the bed room..b/c when I talk to him about it..he still dont do anything I like...and he does like sex..for as fast as he can go for 2 min then he is done :/...infact i didnt mention this part before...right before he left I did take alittle charge.... when he was about to "go" I slowed him down and tryed some teases and kissing....well at the end we both got off (for once :/ )...but then after sex he said " that was a wast of time we need to get up early"....with a ****y attitude..and we were up anyway..its not like i was keeping him up or anything..

[rcoreyus]

If pleasing you isn't important to him, then I think you will never have a happy sex life.

[Texasred]

I really understand what you all are saying yet I really do want to give this relashionship another chance...

You don't think the 5 years you've already given it is "chance" enough? You need to face the possibility, and I'd say it's a strong possibility, that it's not sexual incompatibility you're facing, but just the fact that he is completely inconsiderate, and that's not going to change.
Either he is completely inconsiderate, or he just doesn't care what you want and need.
Don't convince yourself that you're in love with someone who is just "not that into you."
As others have suggested, you deserve better.
Five years may seem like a long time to have invested in this relationship, but I can tell you, you don't want to be looking back 25 years from now saying "WHAT was I THINKING?"