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No pleasure during oral sex or sex?
My boyfriend and I have been together about three years, we've been preforming oral on each other for about 2, and had sex about a month ago. Throughout the two years, I have never felt anything during oral, except for the first time he preformed oral on me. All I ever do feel is movement on my clit. Now that we are having sex as well, I still feel nothing, all I feel is movement inside my body, and still when he preforms oral on me I feel nothing. The only time I can feel anything is when I have my thighs clenched, and even then, the feeling is very mild and ends fast. I am very attracted to my partner in fact, so I do not understand this. Size is definitely not an issue. What could be the reason for htis? What could I do to change this? -
I'm assuming from your delay of sexual activity that you and your boyfriend are young, maybe in your teens?
In my personal experience, the teenaged body is still confused about how to feel during sexual acts. As you get older, your body finishes maturing, and you get more comfortable with yourself and your partner, the pleasure will come. You're not abnormal
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Some ladies do not have sensitive clits that favour traditional Oral sex techniques.
It is likely that you may need more stimulation that oral or Missionary sex can provide.
Get him try varying things like pressure and frequency. Have a session with him when he provides different stimulations while you tell him how it feels.
You can try getting him to try putting lube on your clit and being a bit rougher and faster than he has been. Get him to tease/stimulate your labia/ vaginal entrance with the other hand at the same time.
Good luck- experimentation with feedback will get you there. Take control.Comment
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Thank you! I think you're right, even when I masturbate I feel very little. I shall try what you said, thank you!Some ladies do not have sensitive clits that favour traditional Oral sex techniques.
It is likely that you may need more stimulation that oral or Missionary sex can provide.
Get him try varying things like pressure and frequency. Have a session with him when he provides different stimulations while you tell him how it feels.
You can try getting him to try putting lube on your clit and being a bit rougher and faster than he has been. Get him to tease/stimulate your labia/ vaginal entrance with the other hand at the same time.
Good luck- experimentation with feedback will get you there. Take control.Comment
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