[8syx]

Hi,

I'm a 20 year old girl currently going to university, and occasionally I go to parties and clubs. (I live in Canada so the legal drinking age is 19) It's all great and fun times except once I got so drunk so that I don't remember what I was doing the night before. The next day, my friends tell me that I was begging for sex in various ways. When I am sober and alert I can control these urges and keep them to myself. I'm quite worried now because I'm still a virgin so I just don't want to lose my virginity with some guy I meet at a club or god forbid get pregnant.

I know I can control the amount I drink but there's always that possibility of going over my limit when I'm drinking with other people. Please let me know what I can do so I can have fun and not end up doing something I'll regret.

Thanks in advance!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

This is difficult because we can "change" when we drink lose our inhibitions and be alot more flirty and talkative let alone naughty

Honestly? There isn't anything you can do other than to train your mind to "not" talk about it when you drink to much and how do you do that by stuffing up and trying again and again until it sinks in and even then I can't see that working

I think you are going to have to limit your drinks.

You can't exactly tell guys now look I am all talk nothing more when I drink before you start can you ? It's a hard one sweet.

[Guest]

From a guys perspective, your best defense is your friends. Those girls that I call, "we gotta go" girls, the ones that upon seeing a friend about to hookup suddenly decide the group has to leave and drag the friend about to hookup with them. A good group of girl friends take care of each other, and if you are honest with them and tell them about your worries, they should be your best ally. Besides learning to drink in moderation, of course.

[oxy-moron]

Good advice from SoCoKen. Remember alcohol also makes unattractive people seem attractive.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Actually, excellent thought of SoCoken and oxy's statement is something very much to consider as well.

Uni, gossip, the way a man likes to see a woman, excessive drinking also could cause you problems when sober in-other-words, the "wrong" words getting around ideas about you, even though you've done nothing and then being used by a guy whom you thought "loved" you, but instead he was lead to believe you'd be an easy target.

Have a good think...

[Guest]

Life is nothing more than a series of choices...so make good ones.

Good choices in regards to the friends you choose.

Good choices about how you perform academically at the university.

Good choices about alcohol and other consumption.

Good choices about future partners, etc.

Good choices about all future endeavors.

You have an amazing life ahead of you. Don't make the choice to mess it all up because you chose to consume too much alcohol.

Your life is worth way more than that.

[jns]

Choices, as SA said, are the key. If you go out with a group of girl friends and they can look after you, fine. But if they all end up pairing off, they may not be there when you need them. This is a common thing for guys waiting to pounce on the timid girl that comes to a party with her outgoing girl friend. Further, if you are out with a guy by yourself you will have to show the proper restraint on your own, otherwise you could be more uninhibited than you want. You now know you have this weakness. Use that knowledge to your benefit.