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[newmommy532011]

No meds. He doesn't believe in them...but he does smoke...only is he is stressed....

[jns]

I have a problem with sex sometimes. I like it hard and rough. We do make love when when are in the mood, but I am always horny and always want to do it rough and hard. My husband doesn't always like to do it that way. As I said, we have a healthy sexual relationship, but sometimes I want more and I want sex all the time. When he isn't in the mood, I masturbate, but I never feel satisfied. I hate it. I haven't talked to a doctor about it because I feel embarrassed. I love sex. I love the feeling of being sexually satisfied. Is that normal? My husband take a long time to cum. It doesn't bother me at all because a lot of men cum fast. My husband NEVER had that problem EVER! But sometimes, when we are tired and have sex after the baby goes to sleep, he just does it to please me, but sometimes he doesn't give it his all...

I am going to tell you something that I don't often tell people. I was molested by my "Step"grandfather when I was young. After that I had a problem letting anyone touch me, which is probably why me and my husband are close and when we first started dating, he never pressured me to lose my virginity. We were both virgins. It took a long time for me to feel comfortable letting him see me naked and for him to touch me etc. Now, I have a problem with oral sex. Its very hard for me to let him do that to me. I trust him with everything, and I know he wont hurt me, but for some reason, when I start to enjoy it, I start to freak out. I give him oral sex no problem, but when it comes to me, I get scared.

Do you think that me being molested is the reason I can't receive oral sex? Also why I am sometimes not satisfied with sex? I just need opinions. Thanks :-)

Probably the molestation has something to do with what you like in sex. Mind you, not everything and probably not very much, but something. If you examine how you were molested you can probably draw some conclusions about how things fit. Don't do this unless you can do it and not relive the pain.

Generally, sex is a compromise between the people involved. You and your husband have slightly different approaches and experiences. As long as you two continue compromising it shouldn't be a problem.