This is a question for woman with high sex drives, who enjoys initating. Is it possible to find a partner who is completely sexually compatible? Who should compromise what and how? One partner couldn't keep up with me, and the one who can prefers women to be submissive. (I tried, but hes not to flexible which wasn't fair) I'm wondering if I'm doing something wrong or just finding the wrong guys. wondering what other peoples experiences have been!
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I think you are finding the wrong guys, but to be fair, you are working with a fairly small subset of guys that would have a high sex drive but be submissive at least part of the time.I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
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i have a high sex drive, i prefer being submissive in bed (which sucks as my partner isnt very dominant in bed) in day to day i think i can be very dominating. it chops and changes so much in one personality that i think it can be hard to find compatability but a happy medium and compramise is possible. it allows for changeIf I knew where I was going I would already be there
I wish I had more time. Judicious, beautiful, augmented, whatever.
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I actually think it is possible to find a guy that can allow you to initiate. My wife's drive has now actually increased to be more in line with mine yet I'm still waiting for her to start taking charge at times. I feel a man who is confident in his of sexuality and masculinity would have no problems with an agressive woman. Some of us actually enjoy that.Comment
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u can be submissive IN BED but still initiate sex, i initiate 90% of the time. by high sex drive i mean im the one going after it, not just happy with it when it happens. there are plenty of guys who LOVE it when women initiate sex. even if u prefer the submissive end of BDSM like me it doesnt mean your compatable with a dominating control freak. there are so many different intertwined facets of a relationship
are u saying u are dominating with the actual act of sex? want to always be on top, tying him up etc? dominance and high sex drive are two completely different things.
or u just like initiating and have a healthy sex drive?
just keep looking, and perhaps look out of your normal sphere. what sort of men do u usually date?If I knew where I was going I would already be there
I wish I had more time. Judicious, beautiful, augmented, whatever.
I've always been afraid to die, but I think I'm more afraid to live. (BC, SP)
"I would go out tonight, but i havent got a stitch to wear!" MorisseyComment
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Dominate... Like inniate sex, or ask for other things. Just be in charge. Maybe start and let the man take the lead. In a relationship I do enjoy the man being in charge and me being submissive, but not sl the time.... the last partner prefers a completely submissive woman. He tried taking my lead, but had been telling me no more and more. I'm nit even aggressive. Just very sexual and confident, and waiting to find my match lolComment
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^ oh by take the lead,i compromised by only trying to inniate. which shouldn't be sm issue considering I do submit to him... So yes.it's a very healthy sex drive,i enjoy initiating, and being as in charge as a man is comfortble with, with being submissive as wel. I refuse to completely compromise myselflolComment
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Dominant woman with high sex drive? Give me a break - that is obviously most men's dream. This sounds too good to be true...Comment
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You are beyond lucky Texas...Comment
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