[ShayShay]

So i dont know if the last one i wrote actually went through so i'm writing again. I'm really embarissed about this so be nice.
I feel like theres something wrong with me, I'm a virgin and been with my boyfriend for three years and never had sex. This is for many reasons but the one I'm most worried about right now, is my weak bladder and it seems that whenever i hold it in, I get what i think is an orgasm.
I'm freaking out because I'm seriously wanting to have sex with my guy for the first time. I really want to take that step with him. But I'm terrified I'll pee on him :S I know he'd be understanding but I dont want me and his first time at all and with eachother to end that way. Any advice? what can i do!

[ska1331]

Have you tried empting your bladder before hand. If your bladder is emty then that sensation may be part of your orgasm and not actually having to pee. I would start by emting your bladder prior to activity, then go from there.

[Ashlee T.]

Yes, empty your bladder before hand. Also start practicing "kegels" every day, multiple times per day. This helps with bladder control because it works the pelvic floor muscles and also intensifies orgasm. Alot of time the first sensations of orgasm are the feeling of needing to pee, but if you've emptied your bladder right before, then you can relax and just enjoy.

[junglefever]

Make sure you dont have a bladder infection..when I had them when I was younger..oddly that constant "pressure" of feeling like I needed to urinate made me feel "aroused"..thats another thing..you could simply be for lack of better terms sexually "aroused"..and then when your bladder is full it makes your feeling of arousal more intense..Our clitoris isnt just on the outside..it stems up deep inside our pelvis and has "crab" like looking extensions inside outstretched...one of the sensations in fact of what is caledl a "g-spot" orgasm is the feeling you need to pee..in fact a lot of women do pee..the fluid isnt the same exact consisteny as urine but it comes out of the bladder and mixes with her vaginal secretions..known as the female ejacualation.And if you DO pee a little?Dont worry ..urine is sterile..its not "filthy dirty" like feces..A little pee is fine and heck ...can add warmth and lubrication .. ...My husband has never minded its happened to me I've been around the block a few thousand times..

[ShayShay]

thank you i'll try that. Kinda feel like a freak about it but good to know its understood. Thank you so much for your help