[monoliths&dimentions]

My boyfriend and I only have sex a couple times a month, which sucks cause I have a much higher sex drive than him so I'm left doing it myself for lack of a better phrase. He's told me before it's not that he thinks I'm unattractive(seeing as how thats the first thing most women jump to) and we've talked about it before, he just said there is nothing he can do about his sex drive. Anyone out there going through the same thing as me?

[Sdcooldude]

That's the same with my wife but we only have sex a few times a month if i'm lucky, she has a low sex drive and that's very frustrating and there's not much I can do about it.

[stressed]

Do you know if masturbates often?

[monoliths&dimentions]

I'm not sure if he does or not, my guess is probably. He prefers to do mutual masturbation instead of having sex, but I'm the other way around. But still that only happens one in a while. I'm not sure why he just masturbates when I'm not home instead of being intimate together.

[jns]

Does he look at porn a lot?

[monoliths&dimentions]

I'm not positive but I'd say probably just cause I don't think he's going without anything for that long, I mean most guys will masturbate often if they're not having sex right?

[stressed]

So it's not his sex drive, it's him preferring his hand to sex, even during sex (which is common in such cases). He may have problems ejaculating without his hand and that can make him not want sex often because it's not "normal".

You should have a talk about this, how masturbation affects sex and you can ask if he has any physical issues. You won't be happy in this situation for long and eventually you won't be in love with him anymore and become bitter. If he'd talk to you about it you could work on it together, but when he hides from the truth it harms the relationship.

[Sandyvic]

You don't say how old you are because age and medication play a big part in a person's sex drive. All I can say is if you both are young, and you're thinking of getting married, I would definitely work on this problem before you take the plunge. If he has a low drive now, it won't get better after you marry, and it will leave you frustrated and angry.

I'm not suggesting you break up with him, but if you don't have any desire to take your relationship further, then I would break up with him. If you love him, then you and he need to work out your feelings about this. Good luck.

[monoliths&dimentions]

I am 22 and he is 27, we both don't believe in marriage and have been living with eachother for two years, so by our emotional standards we are "married" just don't have the rings or titles but in the eyes of the law we are married since we are common-law. I dont think I could ever fall out of love with him, he is the only person that knows most private things about me and we are very much in love. We've talked about it briefly he jut get more turned on watching me and masturbating than sex I guess and that's fine cause we usually end up doing both so we are both satisfied. The timing just never seems to work out, for instance he left for tour today and we didn't get to have sex before cause I had my period still and it was supposed to only last until Friday but lasted until sunday for some reason. Probably cause I was thinking about it so much, anyway my biological occurrences just arent on our sexual side.

[Guest]

Don't stay with someone that is so different than you in that department, my wife gave me little at the beginning but little to me was 3 times a week?, so she had potential, now a days is everyday...and sometimes twice a day...thus, with time and love she was able to relax (and she is still working at it) and we can say that at least we can satisfy each other...