[Shell12]

I have been with my boyfriend for just over a month. We have been dating for about 10 weeks.
We have had sex and done other things although his forskin doesnt seem to come back. I havent spoken to him about this although I think I need to, im just not sure how to bring up the conversation as i dont want to hurt his feelings.

I think the condition is called Phimosis.
After playing with him with my hands I had realised his foreskin doesnt come back the way previous partners had. I then went down on him and this sounds really stupid but i didnt feel like i could work with it. I normally enjoy giving a blowjob and i didnt enjoy this at all. As the skin doesnt come back i felt i was very limited in what i could do. Does anyone have any tips? I havent been down on him since as like i say i didnt feel i was doing a good job. I think i already know this and i probably need to talk to him about it.

Thanks for taking the time to read.

[Guest]

He may be circumcised?, if so, that is why his foreskin comes back...just move the skin on the shaft up an down....ask him to show you how he masturbates so you learn to please him...and finally talk to him and share with him your concern......

[oxy-moron]

If I understand you his foreskin does not retract. This could be caused by the tip of the foreskin being overly tight. Sometimes the skin is still lightly bonded to the head. Normally if this condition isnt treated at birth then it has to be treated at puberty- by circumcision.
This will be diminishing his pleasure.
Foreskins can be stretched slightly but he should probably be talking to doctors about it.
Talk to him about it.

[Shell12]

Yes Oxy - you have understood what i mean. I think i will have to speak to him. Just dont want to hurt his feelings. I cant understand how no one has spoken to him about it before now as he has had previous sexual partners.

[Texasred]

How are you going to hurt his feelings by expressing your concern for his well-being?
The two of you have certainly been intimate enough that this shouldn't be a problem.

[Shell12]

I probably wouldnt im probably just worried that it do/would.

We were messing around the other night and it was different to how it normally is. I wasnt doing anything different but it came back, like the foreskin should. I'm not going to say anything at the moment. I'll just see what happens next time.

If it does persist to happen and the other night was a one off I will say something to him about it. I'm now slightly confused and dont want to say anything for him to turn around and say that it does! I'll just see what happens next time.

Thanks for the advice

[oxy-moron]

Might just be that the skin on the tip is tight- It means that it makes it difficult to retract- Next time you have a problem getting the access you need ask him to retract it.
At least that may start a dialogue.

[Shell12]

oxy - Youre right, the skin at the tip is tight. We've spoken about it and he was understanding. Explained about it being tight but said it doesnt hurt.

He's happy so im happy

Thanks for your advice.

[Ratty]

It does sound to me as though he has phimosis, but fear not for it can be treated effectively. Some simple stretching may be all that is required - it may be a bit painful for him to do this but with perseverance he may be able to loosen the opening of is foreskin. Failing that, steroid cream can be very effective in loosening the foreskin. Circumcision will of course sort it out once and for all but only, and i must stress this point, ONLY as a very last resort!
The best thing you can do is make sure he goes to see a doctor and to give him all the loving support you can until a solution to his problem is found.