[obsession]

most of my friends who was virgin had sex after drinking alcohol for their first time,and they told me that it wasn't hurt,but the other ones who didn't use alcohol for their first time told me that it hurt like ,so what's the connection sex and alcohol,does it prevent pain ?why don't they feel pain when they use alcohol?

[jns]

Alcohol, especially when a lot has been drank, lowers inhibitions, relaxes the body and anesthetizes. The lowering of inhibitions also keeps the body relaxed. Unfortunately, alcohol doesn't work well in finding the right guy to have a first sexual encounter with, nor does it work well in making sure that the girl doesn't become pregnant.

[oxy-moron]

I second JNS statements.
It makes ugly people more attractive.
You aren't allowed to drive a car drunk- you should drive your life drunk either.

Possibly if you have found the right partner then have a small amount of alcohol with them first( provided you are at legal age) but but dont get drunk.

[Mes T]

Does this question have something to do with your fear of being raped, like in your first thread?

Sex doesn't have to hurt the first time. My first time didn't hurt at all, and I wasn't using any alcohol or drugs. If your body is prepared, if your partner has taken proper care of your physical needs, then sex does not have to hurt for the first time. If you haven't already, I would recommend exploring your vagina with your fingers or a toy, just to get a sense of what it might feel like to have something inside of you. I think that might help to take a lot of the mystery away.

[obsession]

Does this question have something to do with your fear of being raped, like in your first thread?

Sex doesn't have to hurt the first time. My first time didn't hurt at all, and I wasn't using any alcohol or drugs. If your body is prepared, if your partner has taken proper care of your physical needs, then sex does not have to hurt for the first time. If you haven't already, I would recommend exploring your vagina with your fingers or a toy, just to get a sense of what it might feel like to have something inside of you. I think that might help to take a lot of the mystery away.

No it has nothing to do with my fear of being raped,it's what I heard from my friends.What do you mean saying that if your body is prepared,you mean lubrication?my friends told me that they were wet before sex but it hurt for their first time,and a couple of months later the pain went away,that what they said.

[Darling]

I agree with Mes T
My first and i explored each other, for about a year. By then my body was more than ready, and there was no pain at all.

[obsession]

I agree with Mes T
My first and i explored each other, for about a year. By then my body was more than ready, and there was no pain at all.

sorry,english is not my native language and I didn't understand what u said.u mean it didn't hurt u because u are ready for it?most of people that I know say that it hurt like for the first time and it takes a long time to get used to it.

[obsession]

and why does rape hurt when normal sex doesn't hurt?

[jns]

obsession, rape is defiantly not about getting the woman to relax and be less anxious. It is not about having enough lubrication. It is about violence and control, so the more fear and anxiety the better in the eyes of the rapist. That is why it hurts. That is why there is often tearing. That is why the doctor can say it was rape after it happened, in some cases well after it happened.

Normal sex may or may not hurt the first time. It depends on the size of the guy and the size of the woman's vagina. It depends on if there is enough lubrication. It depends on if there is any infection. It depends on the location and direction of the cervix and uterus. It depends on how relaxed the woman is. And it depends on other factors. Most women have not had anything the size of a penis inserted in their vagina the first time they have sex. Add that to the probability that they both don't know how much lubrication is needed. Add that to anxiety of the first time causing the woman's body to be tense. Add that to the lack of foreplay to bring the woman to orgasm. Add that to the fact that the woman's hymen may be intact. Add that to the guy going too fast. Add that to other factors and you may have a situation where first time sex hurts. If you mitigate most or all problem areas, the likelihood is that sex won't hurt or only hurt a little bit.

[Darling]

sorry,english is not my native language and I didn't understand what u said.u mean it didn't hurt u because u are ready for it?most of people that I know say that it hurt like for the first time and it takes a long time to get used to it.

It didnt hurt me at all, it never has.
I think that the foreplay and pleasuring each other had prepared my body. he put it in slowly and there was no pain. no blood no discomfort.