[aburden2011]

My boyfriend is 26 with a 3 yr old and is soon to be divorced. I have a high sex drive as he does to but doesnt hardly ever want it. He hates that i dont get off when he does so he keeps going which makes him feel like hes getting a heart attack afterwards. How can i help my self get pleased and at the same time please him and make him keep wanting to do it more? He rather spend 30 secs masturbating instead of having sex with me. He is the only guy to ever turn me down when i want too. but when he wants to im all for it. really making me emotionally crazy and really depressed

[Mes T]

Hi there - your thread title is a little misleading. Sounds like your post might be more about whether or not it's okay to date a 26 year old than about problems in the bedroom.

It's slightly unrealistic for him to want you to get off at the same time as he does. Why doesn't he just please you with his hands or mouth beforehand, give you some orgasms, and then he can move on to intercourse?

Otherwise if he prefers to masturbate over having sex with a real woman, that might be a really difficult habit for him to break. Have you talked about the effects of his masturbation on your sex life?

[Tod121]

Mes T is right, its unlikely you will both cum at the exact same time although my wife loves it when we do. Get him to play with you and do all the things you love, using his hands, mouth or even a toy, once you've had your share of the fun and he is dying to penatrate you, you can both finish happy.
Its easy and quick to masturbate especially for us guys but neither sex should prefer it over sex with our chosen partner. How long into the relationship are you, give it a bit of time but dont assume he will change and years down the line you find he still prefers his hand to you. You say he has a high sex drive too, it doesnt sound like that to me.