[I_Have_Questions]

this is GREAT!
Thank you guys!
Regarding self-confidence I agree with what everyone has said, it is really important and I have been working on it.
One way to do this is to give my husband a fantastic time that he will love! if he loves it, he boosts my confidence...
So far it has been working pretty well...
Tonight we are going to a really nice restaurant and I think I will take some of the ideas above to make it EVEN better!
Maybe some blindfold action will follow dinner... haha who knows...
I will let you know how it goes!

[mr.mansview]

since you asked for a man's perspective, here goes..meet him at the door after a day's work or after he's been golfing in something sexy..(btw wearing only a man's dress shirt is very sexy..a tight white tee shirt with no bra is also very sexy..) tell him you have a wonderful surprise for him, but he must first take a shower..when you hear the water shut off, offer to dry him off..start at his neck and work your way down..drop to your knees to dry off his thighs and legs..take his soft penis in your mouth and ...well need i say more..when he becomes erect (he should within 2 minutes) lead him to the bedroom ..if i am not really in the mood for sex, oral changes my mind in a hurry,,you do not have to get him off this way, this is just a preview of what's to follow..i love it when my wife is on top and hangs her breasts in my face..i don't think i need to tell you where to go from here.

[Loris1]

As a guy,
All the post of about confidence are true - for me confidence is really a turn on in a woman - but maybe you have enough of this already and for you the underwear thing is not you. My girl wears white and plain lots of the time and I have grow to love it so much its redefined by very very very deeply embedded panty fetish to revolve around her - what she defines as sexy- not for me red or shiney - no PVC or leather either not my thing.
You asked for practical sugggestions - I am going to give you one that very well may blow your mind if you have not heard of it. I mention it because my girl uses this on me and boy does it work!!!!
I am talking of a lockable chastity tube, for him. Guess who holds the keys? The effect is remarkable, he will become VERY attentive to your needs.

Loris