[Rin]

My boyfriend and I have been together three years. I think about having sex with him all day and even get excited about coming home to him but when the situation arises.... I completely shut down. Its not that I don't want to have sex with him, I love him and want more than anything to please him, plus sex feels good once I get into it... but when it is supposed to happen I don't want it anymore. I get this bad feeling all of a sudden and get irritated/angry when he tries to initiate. Another thing is, I never initiate anymore. This has really been stressing our relationship lately because he wants sex all the time. Im not sure what is wrong and its driving me nuts. I'm not on any kind of medication and am not sure how to fix the situation.

[Velto_Vixen]

the only thing i can think of is perhaps you hate the routine and want something spontaneous?
Have you been abused? Has he done something to lose your trust lately? Work on these issues first.

[Rin]

I am 18, and he is 19 and in college so he still lives with his parents and me with my own. We dont have any privacy, which I have expressed to him several times but when we do I'm a little more receptive. Spontaneity would be nice. :/

As far as I can remember I have never been abused, sexually or physically. Mentally by my mother but that's a separate issue.

We have had some problems with trust over these three years and are trying to work through them. I'm not a very trusting person to begin with.

[Noor2]

Stop the action (sex) for a while ( weeks) and try to focus what really need during this time. And try to start again.

[Rin]

Stress has been a large factor in my life as well, I suppose. With getting classes together for starting college in October, finding another job that I actually enjoy, family drama, and wanting to be out of the house.... things seem a little suffocating. Then again I could just be a drama queen xD I know he wouldn't be too happy with putting sex on hold but if the situation persists, I will definitely try it as a last resort. I'm just one of those girls who firmly believes that if a guy isnt getting sex from his GF (to his satisfaction) he gets it somewhere else. I see it all the time. I know he loves me but I still worry about those things.