[andyshaw]

heres the story.

we got together 2 years ago, we have had a great sex life she was 18 and i was 16. She had only had sex once before and said she never felt anything hardly. When we started having sex she sed it hurt alot for the first 10 times and then it felt great. Now and again she will get a period of about a month or sometimes longer where when we have sex she feels alot of pain and some pleasure no matter what position we do it in. Some times she says she doesnt feel pain and feels nothing. But then othertimes she feels alot of pleasure. i dont have a small penis but its not large it is just under 8 1/2 " and its 7" in girth ( we dont know if we measured the girth right we just used one of those clothes measures like the kind of thing you find in a sewing box. any way she feels alot of pleasure during oral or if i play with her. she doesnt feel no pain when i use my finger either but she feels pleasure. we both have a high sex drive and she likes to have sex alot but sometimes i think she only wants to have sex to keep me happy but i dont want to have sex when i know it is hurting her and shes in paint for up to 30 minutes after and cries sometimes. She wont go to the doctors because of embarrassment. i just wish there was something we could do to stop the pain. We have tried many different condoms, lubes and even sex toys which was her friends idea to try loosen her up a bit because she is very tight. Another thing is aswell when i thrust it nearly all the way in it feels like im hitting something hard and she feels more pain too. we both had a yeast infection a year and a half ago for the first time then got rid of it by the doctor proscribing canisten i think it was and then we got it again a few months later and then they gave us the same treatment and havent had it since. some times when we have sex and it goes great the next day she will complain of a aching pain and a irritating itch so could this have anything to do with it. sorry about my spelling and the way its set out. PLEASE HELP!


thanks for reading.

Andy & Rebecca

[ItsASecret]

Another thing is aswell when i thrust it nearly all the way in it feels like im hitting something hard and she feels more pain too

You are hitting her cervix, it will hurt, an almost about to cry type pain in some women. Do not push all the way in if she is clearly not enjoying it.

Take your time with foreplay, use your fingers to explore around while there is TONS of lube. Her vaginal muscles need to be relaxed and essentially stretched out in order to not feel pain. That is the key. Even a little bit of pressure from unrelaxed muscles can lead to that pressure feeling she describes and as a result it does not make for good sex. Faster or stronger thrusting does not equate better sex so you will need to ease off when she is clearly in pain.

[oxy-moron]

Could also be an abrasion in her Vagina caused by the Yeast infection. Yeast has multiple life cycle states. One of which can tunnel into skin and cause inflammation.( Think athletes foot) To fix this( If its the issue) you will need to isolate the are of pain in side her with your finger. If she has her knees up you should be able to feel most of the inside.
Once you have identified the area you need to rub canisten cream in to it for about a minute- Once or twice a day.
If its not that the ItsASecrets advice is correct and you need to learn to use your pubic bone to give pleasure rather than your penis.