[baby1010]

I am still pretty young, No kids just my bf's kid that is 3. I have a really high sex drive and would love to do it up to 2 or 3 times a day. He is almost 27 and has a kinda low sex drive it seems. I would take care of myself but i dont really get off or anything while doing it myself. I get off more with oral or him using the toy on me. How do i control my sex drive if there is even a way? I hate that he thinks its all i want but really its not, its just that i get really horny and its annoying and sucks sometimes. I dont want us to split over my sex drive bc when he turns me down i feel hopeless and my self esteem just goes down. We argue sometimes over it bc i feel like he doesnt want me, Even if i try to start it he turns me down, but will also complain that i dont start anything.

[Guest]

I am a super high sex monster and let me tell you is not easy....I would have sex with my wife (when she was my girlfriend) and going home afterwards to masturbate......it was like this, it was never enough for me....once married, she was very conservative and didn't even let me touch her vagina.....after a long time, 24 years between dating and marriage, today we do it everyday, sometimes twice a day on weekends. We do it anal (me on her), once a week, we play with toys (she gets one orgasm at least before a penetrate her or she finishes me off with oral - which at the beginin she did not let me cum on her mouth, today, is amazing she sucks me dry with such enthusiams and energy and variaty and every day she keeps improving (she understood that for me, high sex drive, i need more exitment and she is delivering....

My point is that if you stay with this guy, it may take you a long very long time, for him to get to the point where my wife is, where she is actually enjoying herself, she is wearing lingere, and let me vibrate her until orgasm every night (last night I gave her 2 like this before she gave me a very powerful full of semen in her mouth kind of orgasm was incredible....but it takes time and lots of patients and love....so my advise is if you really loves this guy, don't pressure him too much, but he can change with years and give a lot of plesure and happiness in the future like me......but if you don't love him, by all means get another bj closer to your lever of sex drive....otherwise, it will hunt you for ever.......good luck

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Honey, this should be part of your other thread, whilst on a different topic, it explains that you are more concerned of losing him, and prepared to stop being you, who you are for him.

Why is he "all that" to you?

He gets angry, turns you away, tells you you are clingy, then counteracts and says you don't instigate...

I'm going with my thoughts on your other thread, this guy isn't allowing you to be you, has no comprehension on the word compromise.

I gather you live with him? Is the 3 year old child there full time or 50% of the time? Are you playing Mom and not working?

I think you are losing valuable time in your life if the above is yes, yes, and yes.

It would mean, you are the acting Mother at 18 years of age, to a 3 year old, tending to the house, tending to him, the child, not going out with friends, not working full time towards a career, being told you are too clingy, being refused sex, then claiming you don't instigate it, my head is spinning just reading what I wrote.

You should be out there enjoying life, having sex 3 times a day with someone who loves you and is compatable sexually, going out to parties, movies, dinners and working towards a career for a future with your own picket fence and child...

Don't control anything, you are who you are and that is the way it should be, if the slipper doesn't fit, find another one.

[jns]

baby, it seems that you two have mismatched sex drives. Generally guys don't change or don't change by much. It seems that you two are not communicating enough to reach a compromise that mutually agreeable, but not everything for one and nothing for the other. Can you continue on like this?