[Guest]

OK..I'M WITH A GUY WHO TREATS ME PERFECTLY. WE CONNECT ON ALL LEVELS MENTALLY, SPIRITUALLY, EMOTIONALLY, ETC. OFCOURSE THERE'S ALWAYS A CATCH.

So, my bf wasn't home, and I wanted to please myself real fast (just being honest hey we're all grown). I wasn't trying to be nosey, but I search his history. I don't do this frequentally, so I don't know what sites to look for. Basically, I click on something, and it turn out to be tranny porn. Obviously, I was shocked and searched all history. I saw 2shemale site, and 1 where i could see he typed in a search for it. 3 out of a 100 which isn't alot but now I think he's bi-sexual.

NOW... One night we were drinking. I somehow brought up the topic w/o saying directly what i found. I said that I wouldn't have an issue with my man being into stuff like that w/o sounding sarcastic or fake. I wanted to make him feel comfortable if he wanted to admitt anything. He said that stuff like that has pop up on his computer, and about how he didn't know what that was until then. Then he started talking about how they have secret spots these people go to and how this is something they have in thailand or some country I forgot. I'm thinking ok everyone know's this, but for someone who claim they don't know much about it you look real suspect. On one hand about 98% of the porn was all females, but that 2% on top of what he said makes me not sure if that was just curiousity (whatever that means) or if he really is into shemales. Idk what to think on one hand if he is that doesn't mean he's gonna go behind my back and engage into this behavior, but even though our relationship is great i'm not sooo naive to think that he wont.

I guess my question is...Does this sound like he's bi-sexual. If you were in a relationship with a man, and this was the happiest most fulfilling relationship you'd ever been in. What would you think and do? If he wasn't so good to me I'd probably leave. Idk

[Little]

I think there's a big difference between what people want in real life versus what they want in their porn. It may have been something he just wanted a peek at, just to see what it's about. Think of it this way: some people like to see threesomes in their porn, but would never want to do that with their partner; it's just a fantasy.

The best way to get over this is to sit him down and have a chat about it. Even if it turns out he's bi (which he might not be at all,) it doesn't mean he will cheat on you. Once you figure this out, you just need to set the boundaries of your relationship where you're comfortable with them and hold firm.

[caterpillar79]

Fantasies are fantasies. Some people want it realized, some do not. Like Little said, speak up and discuss. Lay out your ground rules, uhm, boundaries and stand by what you say. Look out for yourself (which I can tell, you are already doing).

Being a sister to a "fabulous" younger brother, viewing shemale porn doesn't necessarily mean he is bi-, however, there is a possibility that he is. And since I am the type of person who always think of the "what ifs", I would advise you to look at every angle you can think of and catch how you feel on each of them. Jot it down and tell us what you find out with this exercise.

[Ashlee T.]

I've looked up shemales before. And I'm not sexually attracted to them. Curiousity is a fun thing sometimes.

[Hopeless Dork]

I seriously doubt 2 shemale sites out of 100 porn sites makes him bi-sexual. He might have heard something about shemales and did a search out of pure curiousity and not for sexual arousal. If he were into men, I'd imagine there'd be a lot more male sites a lot more. I really wouldn't worry about it.

[caterpillar79]

I think if he's gay, he won't be in a relationship with you - he'd be with a guy?! IDK...

[BugSauce]

I agree that it's probably curiosity. Maybe there was a picture while he was browsing a site and he lifted an eyebrow like "What's this about?" I've been there, done that without sexual attraction, as have others that I know.

But you never know unless you ask