[Guest]

This boy next door is 14 and I know him because my husband and i went to lunch with the family. When the family was at my house the boy asked to go to the bathroom. After they left I went up to bed and my nightie had I think semen in it all wet. He talks to me a lot over the fence when I use the pool and is a kind boy, don't want to ignore him. Not sure what to do.

[Ashlee T.]

There's not a lot you can do about it. As an adult woman, if you think it looked and felt like semen it most likely was. Just don't get too friendly with him to give him false hope. Be careful in what you say and do around him.

[Guest]

Hi BeautifulD, thanks. I didn't want to tell my husband in case he got angry at our neighbour so I hid my nightie.
I saw him just after I typed this thread! He is in the backyard it seems like all the time after school. He said hi and played basketball but then I saw him leaning on the fence because it has cracks.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Describe if you will your fence, leans over, or has cracks?

My neighbour old guy I was 14, there were "cracks" and I saw his zip down.. Over the fence means head over the top saying hi... If a boy did that? Would not that be cause of he's infactuated?

[Hopeless Dork]

That is not 'normal' 14 year old behavior, in my opinion. To be attracted to any breathing woman, is a normal 14 year old behavior, masturbating, also normal, but using some lady's nightgown to do it on, no attempt to clean it up... is just so highly unlikely -- I've really only ever heard about men that grew up to be fairly depraved or worse men doing such things in youth.

If this happened, then I wouldn't allow him in my home anymore. I would never be alone with him. I would tell my husband the minute I saw it as covering something up like that would just seem suspect. Do you think your husband has uncontrollable rage or something that he would harm a kid? Or would he simply talk to his parents to perhaps get the kid in some therapy before he starts sneaking into homes to steal panties and jerk on them til it escalates further? Its beyond creepy if true.

Anyhow... at the very least I would avoid all contact other than hello in passing if you just want to move on from this point.

[Guest]

Describe if you will your fence, leans over, or has cracks?

My neighbour old guy I was 14, there were "cracks" and I saw his zip down.. Over the fence means head over the top saying hi... If a boy did that? Would not that be cause of he's infactuated?

When i was next to the pool he was playing bball next door but he stopped and i saw his figure in the cracks like leaning on the fence. I just thought he might be spying. Boys are starish, they stare on the bus a lot so its ok if he stares i think

That is not 'normal' 14 year old behavior, in my opinion. To be attracted to any breathing woman, is a normal 14 year old behavior, masturbating, also normal, but using some lady's nightgown to do it on, no attempt to clean it up... is just so highly unlikely -- I've really only ever heard about men that grew up to be fairly depraved or worse men doing such things in youth.

If this happened, then I wouldn't allow him in my home anymore. I would never be alone with him. I would tell my husband the minute I saw it as covering something up like that would just seem suspect. Do you think your husband has uncontrollable rage or something that he would harm a kid? Or would he simply talk to his parents to perhaps get the kid in some therapy before he starts sneaking into homes to steal panties and jerk on them til it escalates further? Its beyond creepy if true.

Anyhow... at the very least I would avoid all contact other than hello in passing if you just want to move on from this point.

Oh no way i could never tell hubby, he would probably hurt him This will be so hard to do, he is outside when i use the pool

[Little]

Ask him not to watch you when you're in the pool. If he keeps doing it, tell his parents. If he keeps doing it after that, call the cops - this is harassment, and you should be able to use your backyard.

Would your husband REALLY REALLY hurt a 14-year-old boy? Please say no Because that's upsetting. Even if he's bothering you, violence against a minor would put him straight into a LOT of hot water.

[thecatlady]

To be honest, the thought of an adult man beating up a 14 year old kid is more disturbing to me than the whole nightie issue. A 14 year old boy hanging around watching you swim is not something you should put up with either, though. Next time you see him at your fence, say hi and ask him how he's doing, and end the conversation there. If he doesn't go away, say something like, "Is there something I can help you with?" That's a major hint to go away. If he doesn't take it, you may have to ask him specifically to leave. If you find him again at your fence (especially if he's sneaking around, looking at you through the cracks), say you would like to swim in peace, and threaten to call the police if he does it again.

[LanaBear]

Just to let you know... If you let this carp go on and don't say anything, in his opinion, you are not dismissing it and somewhat encouraging it by not saying anything, you could very easily be perceived as a sexual predator. At least here anyways, not sure about Australia. And all that is SERIOUSLY NOT COOL!

So, go ahead let him watch you swim and based on your other posts and the avatars you tried to post, I don't imagine that you are all that modest when swimming. Let him go ahead and masturbate on your belongings. You are not being a responsible adult by not saying anything and letting it continue.

[Guest]

Ask him not to watch you when you're in the pool. If he keeps doing it, tell his parents. If he keeps doing it after that, call the cops - this is harassment, and you should be able to use your backyard.

Would your husband REALLY REALLY hurt a 14-year-old boy? Please say no Because that's upsetting. Even if he's bothering you, violence against a minor would put him straight into a LOT of hot water.

I hung the clothes on the line today and I saw him today and he talked to me about tennis. We are both Nadal fans and Nadal signed my top once at the australian open and he has never met Nadal! He kind of stands on a rail on the fence to talk down to me. I went inside after some conversation because i heard the doorbell.

Hubby did it before to a dude that felt my thigh at tennis after practicing with me, and hubby saw from a long way away and punched his stomach and he always says that its ok to warn people off with roughness cos they won't dob on you because they are afraid to dob unless they can make you go to jail etc.

To be honest, the thought of an adult man beating up a 14 year old kid is more disturbing to me than the whole nightie issue. A 14 year old boy hanging around watching you swim is not something you should put up with either, though. Next time you see him at your fence, say hi and ask him how he's doing, and end the conversation there. If he doesn't go away, say something like, "Is there something I can help you with?" That's a major hint to go away. If he doesn't take it, you may have to ask him specifically to leave. If you find him again at your fence (especially if he's sneaking around, looking at you through the cracks), say you would like to swim in peace, and threaten to call the police if he does it again.

Thanks i will! no problemaz

Just to let you know... If you let this carp go on and don't say anything, in his opinion, you are not dismissing it and somewhat encouraging it by not saying anything, you could very easily be perceived as a sexual predator. At least here anyways, not sure about Australia. And all that is SERIOUSLY NOT COOL!

So, go ahead let him watch you swim and based on your other posts and the avatars you tried to post, I don't imagine that you are all that modest when swimming. Let him go ahead and masturbate on your belongings. You are not being a responsible adult by not saying anything and letting it continue.

Not sure if se6ual predators exist in Australia, i heard the term in usa movies before. We live near a clothing optional beach so i got use to not wearing things in the pool too. It makes tans so much better. I know it sounds wrong but his dad saw me nude when he gardened and said hi and he didnt tell me to cover up so it never came to mind as a problem i guess.