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You do not have to do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. And do not feel bad if the other person says "well other people do it so you should like it too". You are not other people, you are you and if you do not want to do something do not feel pressured to do it.[I][COLOR="Purple"]There are those who believe that dictionaries should not merely reflect the times but also protect English from the mindless assaults of the trendy.[/COLOR][/I]Comment
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First and foremost, protect yourself. Lack of adequate protection generates stress (due to opening yourself up for STDs and pregnancy) which in turn,can negatively affect desire.
Now for the fun part.
The best sex IMO is uninhibited sex. It's the sex when you are totally into the sex, don't care what you look like in this position or that position. So do whatever you need to do in order to feel uninhibited in the bedroom. Disclaimer: I am not speaking of drugs and alcohol here. I am referring to things like shutting off the lights. If that's what you need to do to be comfortable, do it. The more comfortable sex you have, the more comfortable it gets therefore better.
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Assuming that you follow some of the wonderful advice given previously, may I suggest two additional things?
1. Put yourself and your needs, wants and desires first (assuming you're female).
2. Buy your partner a copy of the book "She Comes First" by Ian Kerner PhD If he truly cares about you, he will thank you for it.
Being a male, I've spoken with many friends over the years who think they are "all that" when in fact, they're "none of that" and need to learn how to be a better lover.
Financial issues is the number reason couples get divorced in the U.S. and sexual issues are number 2 !!!Comment
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Three DAYS???
What can I do to make her want me after 3 hours? LOL!
Seriously though:
Two things: 1) Communicate (as lizzardb notes above) and 2) PRACTICE, practice, practice!
You'll likely find that the hundredth time you and your lover are together is SOO much better than the first time, and it can keep getting better after that, if you communicate.Comment
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