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  • user10950
    Junior Member
    • Dec 2011
    • 1

    wife dont like sex

    im happily married for almost 4 years with my beloved wife, but she never got to really like sex. she is wonderfull in all other aspects just not in sex, she has no orgasm, not getting turned on by anything, is something wrong with her? is it a health or mental issue? what can i do to change it?
  • demotivator
    Member
    • Nov 2010
    • 41

    Maybe you can change this if she had a different attitude towards sex. Otherwise, your chances are very slim at best.

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    • jns
      Assistant Admin
      • Mar 2010
      • 8398

      Does she allow you access to all of her erogenous areas or is she too ticklish or too shy or etc.? What have you done to try to get her to orgasm? Oral? Masturbation? Different intercourse positions? Plenty of foreplay? Does she relax fully during intimacy? Some women never orgasm, but with many others it is a matter of finding the right set of circumstances and using the right techniques.
      I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
      ...
      Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

      From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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      • angelstrawberry
        Member
        • Oct 2011
        • 27

        So you say she really doesn't like sex. Do you have to beg her for it? Does she enjoy pleasuring you? If she enjoys nothing about it maybe she has had trauma related to sex. Otherwise, some women have medical conditions or just can't orgasm. Does she get excited sexually at all or is she reactive and sensitive down there during oral? If not she might need therapy

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        • DreamP346
          • Oct 2011
          • 2053

          Is your wife very religious or come from a culture/family that is very closed off about sex? That can be a hurdle that needs to be overcome before being able to enjoy sex. Often women grow up being taught that women are asexual or that enjoying sex is wrong. She will have to deal with those feelings first.
          Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose - Kris Kristofferson and Fred Foster (sung by Janis Joplin)

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