[suntan]

I had sex with someone after a long denial and finally I have the taste of it and I sand no longer naively in the world of modern humans and yet it was a short-lived sensation and I expected it a little longer. Once I ejaculated everything was over and both of us withdrew. As I had talked much about my background and the world I am from in my other threads it was my first experiences and I was overwhelmed orgasmic ally and yet she wanted still more to reach the state she craved to be in and urged me to continue the lovemaking I could not do it once I spurted sperms. I hope how I can I make this act more prolonging and sweeter so that both of us can have the thrill of it at the same time?

[BabyGirl]

Suntan...

The first time is usually not a lengthy one, especially since you have been building yourself up to become sexually active, while fighting the morality of your chosen faith.

How do you feel about your first time ? Was it with that woman that you have claimed to love and adore ? Were you her first also ? Was it rushed and sneaky or planned and relaxed and romantic ?

How and when you make love, certainly has an effect on when and how fast you " Spurt your Sperm " as you said .

If she wanted more and was not satisfied, maybe next time if you plan ahead and think you will still " Spurt your Sperm " so quickly. you can be prepared and willing to maybe have Oral Sex on her and try to have her satisfied also.

Or you can do Oral on her until she almost " Spurts her Juices " and then insert your penis and try to release at the same time.

Making Love takes practice, we are not all born to just know how to please each other sexually. I also hope you used a condom, so as not to impregnate her ?

That would definitely put a " Dark Cloud " in your religious Piety . For all would find out that you are pretending to be one thing but your actions say another thing .

After now, you may wish to really make a Decision on your Goals and Promises to the Monk~Hood.

As I have posted before, you can still follow Buddhist Faith and be Married.
But claiming to be a Monk and not actually following the traditions, is akin to being a Hippocratic . And can bring you to be Untrusted and doubted in your sincerity and actual valued Piety, that monks that follow with a True and Faithful Heart are admired for.

The same is for other Religions , Catholics and other Christian Denominations, and even Muslims.
Have had problems for years when they have been discovered to have Promised to their Higher Power to be Celibate and then be discovered that they were not .

So, if you can take the " Loss of your Virginity " out of the equation and search your Heart and Soul. Decide if you wish to follow your faith and chose to be a Monk in all Honesty.
Then make that decision and be proud of it .


It would be so nice to have you answer a few Questions that some of us have Posted. So we may be able to help you more.

This meaning answer directly without avoidance, so we can get a better idea of the Advice to give that you are seeking .

So lets try with this .

1) How do you feel about your first time ?

2) Was it with that woman that you have claimed to love and adore ?

3 )Were you her first also ?

4) Was it rushed and sneaky or planned and relaxed and romantic ?

If you will answer these we can then help you more , especially in your upcoming sexual experiences. And relationship developing .

[maleview]

Many men lose their desire to continue once they ejaculate, but you can do other things. You can use your tongue and fingers to get her where she needs to be, or better yet, make sure to take her there before you get to penetration. This will allow you the freedom to climax at your own pace without thinking too much. I have found over the years that when I think too much, the sex suffers. I believe this is true for men and women. You have to just go with it to have the best sex, but never leave her hanging unsatisfied.

[jns]

Take your time making love and the sensation will not be over so fast. Make sure she gets to orgasm first. Your body will get excited during this stage. Alternate building sensation with activities that will not get you to orgasm (maybe giving her oral would not get you to orgasm). Then, when you have lost some of your excitement, build sensation again. Repeat. After a few cycles, go to completion of your orgasm. Hopefully you will have given her several orgasms at the same time.

[suntan]

I have got wonderful advices from all of you and I like the idea of oral sex or my tongue penetrating inside her vagina. She is unmarried and had her eyes on me for sex for a long time as she said. She has always been attracted to me and she said whenever she comes across me she was enthused to see my penis and now she plays with joyfully and I like that. However when we have sex she is not satisfied and now I will use my finger or tongue. Maybe tonguing her vagina is something I have never thought about though I have seen people inserting their tongues inside their fiancés in pornographic movies. This is really fascinating to learn from you and what excites me is the fact that the very discussion here is arousing and when I read some of your posts I feel horny and yet I cannot come across her anytime I want sex I have to hold my penis and masturbate but the thrill when my penis is inside her vagina is totally different. One needs two to have sex though we can masturbate for a temporary relief but playing with breasts and caressing is a different experience. Now I am enjoying the moment I have always dreamed

[jns]

The clitoris is the center of sensation for most women. Google [clitoris] and go to the wiki hit. Go to the picture labeled human vulva to see where it is located. It is labeled clitoral glans in the picture. This is where you should initially start. It may be best to stimulate it through the clitoral hood as the sensations are strong enough to be felt as pain in some women, at least at the beginning. Also see if she gets good sensation from oral or manual vaginal penetration and stimulation of the area around the urethral opening. Talk with her about what feels good when you masturbate her or give her oral. Use store bought lubrication as necessary.

[suntan]

The clitoris is the center of sensation for most women. Google [clitoris] and go to the wiki hit. Go to the picture labeled human vulva to see where it is located. It is labeled clitoral glans in the picture. This is where you should initially start. It may be best to stimulate it through the clitoral hood as the sensations are strong enough to be felt as pain in some women, at least at the beginning. Also see if she gets good sensation from oral or manual vaginal penetration and stimulation of the area around the urethral opening. Talk with her about what feels good when you masturbate her or give her oral. Use store bought lubrication as necessary.

Thank you so much for your good advice and in fact it worked and she felt better with my finger touching this part and now I use gel and this is softening the vaginal part since when I insert my finger for the first time she cried with pains and now steadily she is feeling better.
In fact we want to orgasm at the same time yet it never happens. Sometimes I insert my tongue inside her for a while she becomes suddenly orgasmic. In fact the tongue worked better on her than the penis