[LittleM]

So my boyfriend and I have never had sex, but sometimes we do fool around a lot. I have made him cum many times, I enjoy rubbing him off and sometimes licking him and just making him feel good. He fingers me a lot and loves to go down on me and give me oral but we have only really had the privacy to do that a handful of times. Everything he does to me feels really great but I guess I'm not really sure if I am having orgasms or not. Sometimes I get that feeling that I have to pee while he's doing either of those things, but I don't think I ever get to the point of an orgasm. It could be that I just can't handle the feeling yet - the other day he was going down on me and it felt so great and then he inserted his fingers while still licking my clit and that reallyy felt amazing, but after a little while I just couldn't handle it. I could tell it was a good kind of not being able to handle it, but I held out as long as I could before I had to pull away.

I must add that I am completely content with not having orgasms, I am totally satisfied with just feeling good, so there is no problem of me being frustrated or stressed to the point that it is keeping me from enjoying myself, I am very relaxed while he is pleasuring me. I am also naturally a pretty wet kind of person, but sometimes whenever my boyfriend is done pleasuring me he proudly comments on just how wet I was. Like I know this may sound gross but after the experience that I just described he told me that he could feel it running down my back (I was laying down with my legs on his shoulders and he had one hand on the middle of my back supporting me a little), which is definitely more than normal. I have never masturbated; it's not that I find it weird or disgusting, I guess I have just never felt the need. I've seen a lot of comments on posts that say that you should so that you know your body and know how to get to the point of an orgasm but I guess I'm just not sure how to do that or if it is something I really should try. I would love any suggestions, comments, or further questions about me.

[acerousme]

you've been to the point of orgasm. that having to pee feeling? yeah...that means you are on the brink of quite a big O...so when you feel that, you need to relax. focus on what feels good, and dont be afraid to give him directions.

[michelled]

You really need solo

If you search "masturbation," you will find countless threads on the subject. Many women, myself included, will tell you that exploring your body and finding out what gets your juices flowing is really important. I remember experiencing my first "O" as a teen while I masturbated and honestly some of the orgasms I have when I masturbate are bigger and more intense than the ones I have during sex with my guy. Bottom line....learn to DIY.

[LittleM]

Okay thats what I thought acerousme, I relaxed more but then the feeling started fading away lol

thanks michelled, I will definitely be looking into that then. I guess the reason that I haven't tried it before is that I feel like it wont be the same as when my boyfriend is doing it. But for you it seems like its better, so anyway I will look into it more and just see what happens lol

[LanaBear]

Like the post above, I would recommend exploring your own body. Find out what really makes yourself tick. You are right, it won't feel the same as when your boyfriend is doing it, but exploring your own body is never a bad thing. And if it feels good to you, it may be even more explosive when you can tell him what feels great!